DREADED BY SOME, loved by others — there’s no getting away from the fact; Valentine’s Day is almost upon us.

For couples, it can sometimes be a minefield.

According to psychosexual therapist Nuala Deering:

“Sometimes these days can be a way of people ticking the box and not dealing with the big issues in a relationship.”

“You sometimes get people feeling that a partner brings out the big guns — the gifts or whatever, but that they aren’t really engaged otherwise.

If a partner isn’t bothering with a particular occasion it can be a sign that they’re switched off from a relationship too. Often you hear people talking about it very negatively.

Nuala will be dropping by our newsroom tomorrow afternoon for a chat — not just about Valentine’s Day, but to answer general questions on love, sex and relationships.

We’ll be streaming the Q&A, and live-blogging some of her answers.

So if you’re feeling mildly freaked out heading into the 14th — or if you’ve a bigger issue you’d like some advice on, do let us know.

daragh@thejournal.ie is the best place to send questions for the moment. You can also tweet us @thejournal_ie with any follow-ups or fresh queries, as the interview is happening.

Tune in from 3 o’clock tomorrow afternoon for the Q&A.

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