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Comment #4969944 by Deborah Behan

Deborah Behan Apr 12th 2016, 11:20 AM #

What’s enough? What’s too much? Would you not prefer to get the desired result by a different method (naughty corner, depriving them of their favorite toy, canceling a treat/trip) rather than physically attack the child to let them know who’s boss (which sounds quite juvenile in its self)?

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FactCheck: Are children who get smacked more successful later in life?

FactCheck: Are children who get smacked more successful later in life?

TheJournal.ie’s FactCheck looks into the study that caused ructions on Liveline yesterday.

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    Favourite The Girl
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    Apr 12th 2016, 9:21 AM

    It is not so much the actual smacking, it is that the parents do not tolerate rubbish therefore they push the kids to be great at all they do. I’m not talking about abusive smacking but the pow pow that sets you straight immediately.

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    Apr 12th 2016, 9:54 AM

    My father literally kicked me up the arse full force with boots on when I was 15! Another time my mother drew blood by sticking a shoe into my face, I don’t think I was a bad child, but the old wooden spoon was definitively cracked the odd time. I have a child myself now and I just can’t imagine touching them

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    Apr 12th 2016, 10:52 AM

    Kids need a belt in the orse every now and again. Kids these days are ruling the roost, controlling little brats and parents yes them far too much.

    At the end of the day slight pain is s learning mechanism we evolved with and 30 years of pc clown hasnt changed the fact that we’re only a few hundred years out of the trees.

    Everything in moderation.

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    Apr 12th 2016, 11:20 AM

    What’s enough? What’s too much? Would you not prefer to get the desired result by a different method (naughty corner, depriving them of their favorite toy, canceling a treat/trip) rather than physically attack the child to let them know who’s boss (which sounds quite juvenile in its self)?

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    Favourite Peadar Ó Gréacháin
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    Apr 12th 2016, 11:26 AM

    I have never raised my hand to my son, my only child he is 31 in July, and a more honest and caring human being you could wish to meet, you can raise your kids without inflicting pain, if you teach them to treat others the way they wish to be treated, having said that back in the day I got many a walloping, and it didn’t do me much harm but it bloody hurt at the time, and I remember to this day how much, and set out not to carry on that tradition, and it worked out fine.

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    Favourite Rebecca Hegarty
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    Apr 12th 2016, 4:16 PM

    How can you say everything In moderation when it comes to raising your hand to a child?? I never understand how people can think this way, I remember seeing it a lot when the arras attracta scandal broke. People who were sickened that someone could treat an elderly or Mentally challenged person in this way, effectively saying its cruelty to get heavy handed or hit someone with the mental age of a child…. Unless they’re actually a child in which case it’s good parenting??? So why is it not considered cruel and vicious to hit an actual 3 year old? Is it only considered cruelty when they are physically capable of hitting you back? The reality is it’s not ok to hit anyone because they don’t do things your way (would it be ok for your husband or wife to hit you for not going to bed on time?) and the minute you raise your hand to a child you have lost control

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    Apr 12th 2016, 5:12 PM

    Stabbed in the eye by my mother & beaten by my father in the face till my eye closed & didn’t open for 2 weeks & yes I was a terrible child & not easy on them but I was still a child. If you need to slap a child it’s not the child that’s the problem.

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    Apr 12th 2016, 6:01 PM

    Gee lads – ye are all full of childhood sob stories! Ye were probably all brats.

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    Apr 12th 2016, 7:30 PM

    Ye couldn’t agree more with you. Inflicting pain is not the answer to raising your child. Have 3 and never had any desire, need or want to hurt any of them. We had our moments but you as a parent need to stay in control before you try to control your kids!!!

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    Apr 12th 2016, 10:49 PM

    It is unbelievable that so many people choose to put their children into schools in the care of an organisation that has a leader who says hitting a child ‘with love’ is OK – promoting the ‘spare the rod, spoil the child’ outlook. Let’s be clear: call it what you like but what you are doing is hurting a vulnerable child who is younger and more emotionally mature (and not in charge of their emotions) than you are as an adult who is supposed to love them. People need to stop justifying and minimising it – If it did not hurt them, how would it instil the fear to make it work.

    Like many others here, I was hit as a child growing up – it did not ‘do me no harm’ – it is a betrayal that destroys your self-esteem as a child and belief that you are OK, just as child development experts say. It is simply a bigger person hitting a smaller person, because they cannot control themselves, because they can. It’s not OK. I brought up my son without this and you could not find a more kind, thoughtful, caring and responsible young man. The kids who are running riot and getting into trouble have had parenting that was lacking in guidance and love – and have most often been hit too much – that too is proven.

    As a country, we are need to be kinder to our young people – other European countries banned hitting children years ago – can we really say our approach is better when we have the second highest youth suicide rates in Europe? We need to start loving and supporting our children and young people and being there for them. We should be ashamed of the current crisis in our youth mental health.

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