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Thousands to march for marriage equality in Dublin

Last year's March for Marriage
Last year's March for Marriage
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THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE are expected to take to the streets of Dublin today for the third annual March for Marriage, organised by LGBT Noise.

The aim of the march is to urge the government to listen to calls highlighting the inequalities of civil partnership legislation, and to lift the ban on same-sex marriage.

Organiser Max Krzyzanowski told TheJournal.ie that while the majority of people in Ireland appear to be in favour of gay marriage (a Sunday Times/Red C poll in March found that almost three quarters of Irish people are in favour), it’s “only the politicians that are holding us back”.

Krzyzanowski highlighted parenting issues as some of the most important factors separating civil partnership from marriage.

He said that a child raised in a civil partnership can only have a legal relationship with one parent, while neither partner in a civil partnership is available for consideration for adoption.

If a person enters a civil partnership with a child, their partner is not a position to legally act as a step parent. Krzyanowski also highlighted that there are issues with picking children up from school and in making medical decisions. He also said that not allowing same-sex couples to marry is simply  ”transparently discriminatory”.

He’s criticised politicians, and in particular Gay Mitchell for his recent comments on RTÉ Radio during which he said he was aware of many people in the gay community who were happy with civil partnership, and said he was happy to “let the hare sit on this” and see how it works out.

Krzyzanowski told TheJournal.ie that “because of [Mitchell's] homophobia, there are children being raised who can’t be collected from school by their non-biological parent” and said that:

Letting ‘the hare sit’ is jeopardising Irish children.

Krzyzanowski is urging Irish people to press Gay Mitchell and the other presidential candidates on these matters, and that the presidential campaign is the perfect opportunity to bring the issues into the spotlight.

Today’s march will begin at City Hall on Dame Street at 3pm and travel to the Department of Justice.

Singer Brian Kennedy is among those supporting the march. He said that the Civil Partnership Act does not go far enough, reports the Evening Herald and has urged people to attend today, saying:

It’ll be peaceful, warm, welcoming and you don’t have to be gay to come along.

The organisers say they have never met any opposition to the march in the past, and don’t expect there to be an opposition to today’s event.

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    The ban on same sex marriage is disgusting.

    I think it’s largely down to ignorance and the age old fear of anything outside conformity.

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    • Guinness Follower 14/08/11 #
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      What’s the difference between a same sex marriage and a civil partnership?

    • Rory McCann 14/08/11 #
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      @Guinness Follower, Same Sex Marriage and Civil Partnership are different when it comes to children. If a woman has a child, and then marries a man unrelated to the child, then that man has legal rights and resposibilites to that child. Legally that man is that child’s father (I think). If a woman A has a child, and civil partnerships another woman B, then B has no legal rights or responsibilities to that child

  • Emma Tydings 14/08/11 #
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    This march is really making a mockery of the sacrament of marriage. It’s as if the gay community feel every problem can be solved with a march. What a smart bunch they are. Guess what people-it doesn’t work!

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      It’s called raising awareness, showing that Gay Mitchell is wrong when he says Civil Partnership is enough for most gay people.

    • hbenroe 14/08/11 #
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      Live in the modern world,and don’t be just another homophobe Emma,live and let live,some people just seem to value their own opinions over others a bit too much, before you judge anyone walk in their shoes a while

    • Fergal O'Neill 14/08/11 #
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      Of course let’s now call out the homophobe card now hbenroe. This shows me that you have no understanding of the fundamental meaning of the word.

      I would find it very hard to locate a single person who actually hates gay people. I can find many that have a strong dislike of the attacks they continuously make on mainstream society and even more who disagree strongly with your attitudes and behaviour. These folk are not homophobes.

      You say “some people just seem to value their own opinions over others a bit too much”? You’re right. They are the ones marching today.

    • Brian Kelleher 14/08/11 #
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      They’re not trying to chamge your fruity cults definition of marriage, they’re trying to change the legal definition of marriage. We live in a secular state, remember? The "sacrament of marriage" and marriage in a legal sense don’t have to be one and the same.

      Stop imposing your defunct ideology on the rest of us.

    • Joe Sixtwo 14/08/11 #
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      What has the “sacrament of marriage” to do with a Gay marriage? Confusing the issue again Emma, Roman Catholic Cannon law has nothing to do with the State law.

  • Louise Lowe 14/08/11 #
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    Is anybody else getting sick of gay people marching all the time? They make the Orangemen look good because at least they have a genuine reason for marching. Same sex marriage will never exist in this country and rightly so. These people should be doing something better with their time like getting a life!

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      Like become a model/actress/golf nut?

    • dannymcgee 14/08/11 #
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      ” They make the Orangemen look good because at least they have a genuine reason for marching.” hahahahaha!
      imagine if in 100 yrs time the brits acorss the water started demanding to hold a march every year down the main street in Berlin…..yea good reason for a march. gtfo

    • hbenroe 14/08/11 #
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      I feel sorry for you are louse.are you a happy person?

    • Joe Sixtwo 14/08/11 #
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      Louise how would you feel if you could not marry the person you loved because of some stupid primitive law ?

    • Rita Maciulyte 14/08/11 #
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      Oh honestly, some things are better off staying in your head.. whoever you are… because the world has enough small minded people such as yourself Louise!

    • Rory McCann 14/08/11 #
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      Marriage changes in Ireland all the time. Divorce used to be impossible, now it’s not. Times change. 50 years ago could you predict the Taoiseach condeming the behaviour of the catholic church directly in the Dáil? I don’t believe it when people say “This’ll never happen in Ireland”….

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    Louise, are you happy for people to be treated as second class citizens in their own country?

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    • Fergal O'Neill 14/08/11 #
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      This has nothing to do with being treated as second class citizens. It has everything to do with people trying to bastardise a fundamental truth. Marriage is for man and woman. It recognises the dignity of their life giving union and recognises the fact that the safest most stable place for children to develop in with a mother and father who have given themselves to one another.

      The gay community always revert to using the ‘discrimination’ card when they don’t get their own way.

    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      You say “it has nothing to do with being treated as a second class citizen, Fergal, and then go on to say that marriage recognizes the dignity of a couples’ life. Bit contradictory? Unless you feel that homosexuals don’t deserve dignity, in which case Rónán’s point has just been proven.

    • Fergal O'Neill 14/08/11 #
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      I never said that Matt. The dignity of the individual person irrespective of their race, creed orientation is inviolable. I would die to defend that.

      I said that marriage recognises the dignity ‘of their life giving union’. There are unions that are dignified and there are unions that are not. This goes for the heterosexual world too.

    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      Ah yes Fergal because straight people don’t behave in strange ways, it’s just those queers who go marching through town. Straight people never do anything wrong or have “attitudes and behavior” that others disagree with.

      Get your head out of the clouds and realize that we’re all humans. Try listening to what Jesus said, instead of the what the Church says now.

    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      that was a reply to a different comment.

      But my aunt and uncle can’t have children. And they’re married. Do you think they shouldn’t be allowed be married since they have never biologically been able to have kids?

    • Frank McMahon 14/08/11 #
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      everyone please take a very quick glance at Fergal’s profile – you’ll know what i mean when ye see it

  • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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    Yeah, look at Canada, their society is all twisted with all those same-sex marriages! And Belgium! And the Netherlands! And Norway and Sweden! All societies that are shams, disintegrating from the inside because of gay marriage!

    I don’t understand how people can be so vitriolic on something that is none of their business. Your marriage is already compromised if you have one, because of the face that same sex-marriage is legal in the aforementioned countries. So tough, get on with your life, and stop dictating to others what YOU perceive to be the best thing for every other person in the country.

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  • dannymcgee 14/08/11 #
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    caveman o’neill

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  • Collie Woods 14/08/11 #
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    Politicians holding back progression in society. Nothing new there.

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  • willy pearse 14/08/11 #
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    I blame god, if Emma and Louise could put down their rosary beads for a second they might just see how sad and bigoted they are.

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    • Fergal O'Neill 14/08/11 #
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      That’s right Willy, I forgot pro-gay = anti-Catholic. That’s the equation you live by. Perhaps if you added in a little tolerance, reason might start to emerge and do you and your causes a favour.

    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      Haha tolerance coming from the man who supports an organisation that burned people at the stake! THAT IS SO FUNNY!

    • Brian Kelleher 14/08/11 #
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      You preach tolerance yet you’re against letting people who don’t believe the same as you to get married. A gay marriage law isn’t obliging all practicing Catholics to go out and get one, is it? All it’s asking is for you to be tolerant of the 10% or so of the population that will.

      I agree Feargal, we certainly do need more tolerance in this society.

  • Cormac Flanagan 14/08/11 #
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    Ok what are the legal differences between a straight couple co habiting and a gay couple co habiting. I mean with reference to legal issues I mean not moral. ie inherence, children etc. Just don’t know.

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    • Fergal this is NOT about the rights and responsibilities of co-habitation. It is about the legal inequalities in civil law which is supposed to be blind to any one religious belief system. Civil marriage and the rights and responsibilities thereof are denied by law to couples who are homosexual. The differences between Civil Partnerships as defined in Irish Law and civil marriage are numerous and material. Please refer to the Acts and published information from GLEN.ie for exact discriminatory differences.

    • Rory McCann 14/08/11 #
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      Well the straight couple can choose the legally strengthen their relationship by getting married, the gay couple can’t…

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    @Emma @Louise @Fergal

    I’m guessing that you are following the strict Christian definition of marriage. Since when did relgions hold a monopoly over dictionaries?

    With regards to the nuclear family being the best place to raise a child -how do you account for all the abused children in so-called stable environments? While I agree that the nuclear family is theoretically one of the best places to raise a child (I prefer the extended family personally), child abuse happens, marriages break up and parents become alcoholics and druggies. Those are far more serious problems than the sexual-orientation of anybody.

    And how is Norris pro-paedophiles? I’m not a huge fan of the guy, but that’s no call to slander him like that…

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    • Cindy O'Mahoney 14/08/11 #
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      Fiachra, it looks like you have a lot of reading to do about Mr Norris and his doings in the 1970′s 80′s and today!!

    • Brian Kelleher 14/08/11 #
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      Don’t know about the 1970′s but in the eighties he was in the Supreme Court battling to get homosexuality decriminalised in Norris v AG, which failed, and then in the nineties he brought the battle to the ECHR in Norris v Ireland, in which his action was successful. Basically played a pivotal role in the private lives of 10% of the population being decriminalised.

      Wow, what an asshole.

    • Debbie Kenny 15/08/11 #
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      How dare you slander a great man cindy you should be ashamed of yourself. As a person who has met the man[have you] he is a great man who has done a lot for this country. Also as the mother of a gay man i would like him to have the right to marry if thats what he wants to do just like my straight son can.I wonder why people like you get involved in this topic when it has no effect on your life.

  • willy pearse 14/08/11 #
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    Let us pray fergal that all those wretched gays will be cured by the power of prayer

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  • Brian Kelleher 14/08/11 #
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    What bothers me about you is not so much that your views are so horribly repugnant to modern values, but the fact that you’ve felt the need to post it half a dozen times under this article.

    We heard you the first time Feargal, you don’t need to shove it down our throats.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Marriage is a sacrament, a sacred union between a man and a woman who may be blessed with children.
    I am proud of my faith and am not ashamed to say so. Marches like this are looking to draw attention to themselves because gays love attention. They use the discrimination card to get what ever they want to moan about next. The march shows this. If you want to live an unnatural life then march away! You are the minority and always will be.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      We know we’re a minority, and yeah, we want to live the life we want to live. So why don’t you just shut up about your faith, keep it to yourself, and let us get on with what we want to get on with.
      Or by bringing your faith into this and being proud of it are you not looking for attention too? Or just being a bigot? You can take your choice.

    • Tony Kavanagh 14/08/11 #
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      Marriage is a sacrament in your church, yes. And nobody is trying to change that. This is about CIVIL marriage, for people of your faith, of other fatiths and no faith. We are not looking for church sanction for marriage, we are looking for CIVIL marriage. To be treated as eual citizens. The churches are laws unto themselves. Throwing the word “card” (he ‘discrmination card’) into your argument highlights that, at some level, you recognize that there is discrimination at play. It just so happens to be a discrimination that is in line with your own views and beliefs but you don’t want us using the word ‘discrimination’ to describe it. But you ARE discriminating: mariage is for only one section of society and not another. Nobody has yet said how the institution of marriage would be negatively affected by extending the right to civil marriage to same-sex couples. HOW would it be affected?

    • Aisling McCrudden 14/08/11 #
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      Sarah, I’m glad I’m not as closed minded as you!

    • Jenny Howard 14/08/11 #
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      Are you proud of a church that systematically abused young children and then covered it up? How can you call a loving relationship between two consenting adults unnatural-surely what was perpetrated by priests and nuns for decades made you question your faith? Get a life Sarah.

    • Brian Kelleher 14/08/11 #
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      Pride’s a sin Sarah…

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    No longer a fan of Brian Kennedy.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      If you were a fan in the first place then I think you had something worse wrong with you than you think gay people have with them.

    • Jenny Howard 14/08/11 #
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      Oops you didn’t know he was gay?! How could you call yourself a fan in the first place? How very sad.

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      Then again, I have changed my mind, as is my human right. I think he is a talented singer, musician so I will continue to enjoy the music.

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      Unlike you Jenny Howard I wasn’t obsessed with whether a musician is gay or not.

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      I don’t think being at a march with a bunch of people like ye who preach about equality and tolerance is worth his while. Ye certainly don’t show even basic respect even discussing your views. Incapable and intolerant of a discussion with the opposite point of views – now that is what is sad.

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      What you think of me isn’t of any interest to me MM so don’t assume it.

  • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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    Yeah thank your God that he allowed hundreds of perverts into his church to rape children

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      I’m an atheist love, I don’t have or want or need a god and I think the Seanad should be abolished.
      Idiotic assumptions and ignorant accusations here are sickening, as is your lack of intelligence and lack of empathy for anyone.

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    “Or by bringing your faith into this and being proud of it are you not looking for attention too?

    So you agree, you are looking for attention?

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      YES WE’RE LOOKING FOR ATTENTION FROM THE POLITICIANS SO THEY’LL CHANGE THE LAW!
      Are you people so stupid that you have to have EVERYTHING explained to you? If we were allowed get married, we wouldn’t need attention. Seriously stupid question.

  • Cormac Flanagan 14/08/11 #
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    So it’s ok to gay and proud but not catholic and proud. Funny that.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      I thought pride was a sin? I’m not religious, so I’ll be proud if I want thanks.

    • Tony Kavanagh 14/08/11 #
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      I know lots of gay catholics who are proud of being both. You can be a proud catholic. Doesn’t automatically follow that you can deny civil mariage to people of other faiths, of no faith or even of your own faith. This isnt about church marriage: it’s about civil marriage. Your catholic marriage is not affected in any way at all.

    • Cormac, I don’t think anyone said it’s not ok to be Proud and Catholic. If people want to be proud of their faith that is their own personal choice. One they must examine and base on their experiences and knowledge of same.

      However, there is no room in law for any one religious belief system to be favoured in civil legislation. We are talking about civil law, therefore this is a civil secular rights discussion. This is not the court of the holy see or any other theocratic system. Civil law is for all of society not just those who espouse certain beliefs.

    • Cindy O'Mahoney 14/08/11 #
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      Civil marriage is anything but marriage. Just because I dress up as a ghost or ghoul on Halloween doesn’t actually make me one.

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      Gays like Mulligan have an obsession with being proud its called Gay pride. Everyone else though he can shower with abuse. It is called being Matt Mulligan.

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Your words Matt Mulligan, not mine. _ “Yeah thank your God that he allowed hundreds of perverts into his
    church to rape children.” Your words.

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  • willy pearse 14/08/11 #
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    Sarah. Believe in the tooth fairy instead. Same bullshit only less rules and regulations. Oh and you get to be open minded as well. Great!

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  • Cormac Flanagan 14/08/11 #
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    Wasn’t slagging you for been proud. Just saying you slated someone for their beliefs.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      their BELIEFS which I don not subscribe to, neither to which the state is meant to subscribe but which they still expect to determine the civil law of this secular country. So yeah, I did

  • Cormac Flanagan 14/08/11 #
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    To clarify my earlier question. Whats the difference between civil partnership and civil marriage.

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  • David Higgins 14/08/11 #
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    I’m 100% in favour of Gay Marriage but does the Gay Community have it out for Fine Gael?

    Lucinda Creighton received thousands of abusive and offensive messages for her stance on the issue before the general election. Many were sent to her mobile phone and others sent to her facebook and twitter pages. Most of the messages were extremely offensive and there was even a discussion started on one website for a protest at her wedding. I was disgusted by that. It doesn’t give the impression of the gay-marriage brigade as being a very civilised bunch.

    Now it seems that the Gay Community is turning their offensive on our Presidential Candidate Gay Mitchell. Are they aware that the president has no legislative power and that he would be obliged to sign a Gay Marriage bill even if he disagreed with it?

    Labour is already in favour of Gay Marriage and many within Fine Gael want to see it happen too. Young Fine Gael recently passed a motion overwhelmingly in favour of Gay Marriage at our Summer School and that will likely become YFG policy next year. It has the potential to become Senior Fine Gael policy during this Dáil term if the debate is convincing enough for people like Lucinda Creighton. New TD for Galway West Sean Kyne spoke in favour of our motion and many other TDs are supportive of Gay Marriage.

    If the Gay Community wants to change Fine Gael’s stance on Gay Marriage, they’re not going to get anywhere by hurling online abuse. The sooner people realise that, the sooner the rest of my party will change their views.

    But if the abuse continues, it only strengthens the views of those within the party who are against Gay Marriage.

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    • Tony Kavanagh 14/08/11 #
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      That school marmish reply is cutting no ice. “Speak nicely to us or you’re not getting any ice-cream?” Puh-lease! I saw a lot of the crap posted on Lucinda Creighton’s FB page and it made me cringe. But, thankfully, it does not represent the majority of gay people. Many of us were disgusted and embarassed by it. But that is a side issue, as you well know. Politicians make public pronouncements and receive support and/or flak as a result: nobody but the most egocentric is ever surprised by it. As for Gay Mitchell, his comment about not wating anything that “would weaken marriage” was either a non-sequitor or a reluctance to support gay civil marriage. “Let the hare sit” basically means “let’s wait and see how long we can get away with this.” Can he or anyone actually say HOW marriage would be affected by extending civil marriage to same sex couples? I have yet to see those reasons articulated.

    • Cindy O'Mahoney 14/08/11 #
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      Lucinda Creighton has more balls than her leader does.

    • Glenn Carroll 14/08/11 #
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      Cindy…you seem to be confusing balls with bigotry and delusion!

    • David Higgins 14/08/11 #
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      Call her a bigot if that makes you feel better, but don’t expect any human being to change their views by being insulted.

      A responsible approach to this is to put forward augments FOR gay marriage, not insults against those who oppose it.

    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      There’s no point trying to change people like her if they’re set in their ways, it’s a waste of time.

    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      And also, “your party” is showing a great way to govern in the way that you say we need to convince them by being nice. Are they not convinced by the polls or the marches like this today?

    • David Higgins 14/08/11 #
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      Marches and polls shouldn’t influence them but the arguments should. YFG is working hard to push marriage equality within the party and I think that will influence many more TDs to support our viewpoint.

      I don’t believe that Lucinda or any of our other TDs are set in their ways. Debating the issues maturely is the way to go.

    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      But if it’s a referendum issue then why don’t they hold a referendum? Or do they not want to be the party that let that vote happen? I said it about Fianna Fáil, I’d say it about any party that feels that it’s internal agreements and satisfactions are more important than what the people are asking for.

    • Glenn Carroll 15/08/11 #
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      @ David, It does make me feel better…. and calling people like her a bigot and deluded is a most responsible approach because it is true. As for putting forward augments FOR gay marriage, I shouldn’t have to and I wont because it just buys into the hands of small minded people like Creighton. Human and civil rights should be a given not something to be argued about.

  • Cormac Flanagan 14/08/11 #
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    Thanks. Will look up the website and inform myself. I can’t see why civil marriage can’t be worded to say between two consenting adults and not man and women.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Well, if you think your march will make the difference go ahead and march. I doubt my views are going to have a dramatic impact on anything anyway. Sick of injustices e. g the recession, water tax, pathetic health system, a pathetic country in some ways.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    I think Brian Kennedy is a good singer but I am sick of hearing him going on about being gay every time he is on.
    It is really boring.

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  • Cindy O'Mahoney 14/08/11 #
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    You know Brian, you seem not to be able to deal with straight talk. Fergal is not pushing anything down anyone’s throat from what I can see. He is simply stating his views in a no-bullshit manner. Didn’t take long for you to show your true colours.

    I can see why folk are slowly dropping support from these type of ‘Gay’ causes. You have no intelligent debate, everything you don’t get you cry and march over or play the discrimination card or bash the Catholic Church or throw out the word the word homophobe. Just look at the pro-gay marriage posts in this thread. All apart from Tony who is trying to eloquently debate his views the rest fit the criteria I have just given. Outside of that there is nothing left for you to give.

    I think the like of yourself does the ‘Gay’ cause no favours and you are to be pitied more than engaged with.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Thanks for your kindness Cindy.

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  • mr g 14/08/11 #
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    Gays should be happy with what they already have, marriage is for a man and woman to create a child. I’m not religious at all, nor homophobic I get on well with gay people but disagree with this, maybe some improvement to the civil partnership could help.

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  • mr g 14/08/11 #
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    I think the people of Ireland should get to vote on this issue at the next elections a referendum would solve the issue. If enough people vote for it I and others with the same view would have to accept it. Even though I don’t agree with it. But if the people of Ireland vote no well then that should be the end of the matter

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    To Jenny Howard: When did I ever say I supported anyone who abused children. When??????????
    Ordinary catholics are not to blame for any of the abuse. Are you blaming all catholics for the wrongs of some people who did terrible things. Regardless of whether they are clergy, guards, teachers, entertainers, politicians, any walk of life – abuse of children is wrong. Yeah, tar everyone with the same brush. That is the small mind at work. Harold Shipman was a doctor and a mass murderer? Do you think all doctors are evil based on that?
    Beverley Allitt a nurse, who killed children, patients in her ward. All nurses and all hospital staff are murderers so
    according to your thinking. Anders Behring Breivik is Norwegian and a murderer, so all Norwegians are potentially murderers. That is pathetic thinking and you and Mike Mulligan have used that approach in responding to me. Absolute nonsense. If you think I need to get a life then I can only hope you get one too and fast!!!!!

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      “….gays love attention. They use the discrimination card to get what ever they want to moan about next. ”

      Yeah, don’t tar everyone with the one brush when it’s about Catholics, but feel free to do it about gays. It’s amazing how much you tell about someone just from the amount of back talking and contradictory “logic” they use.

    • Joe Sixtwo 14/08/11 #
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      Sarah with all due respect everybody is aware that the cases of child rape and abuse that took place within that organization. They were not isolated incidents but on a massive scale not only in Ireland but on a massive scale world wide.The Vatican attempted to thwart justice and protected Pedophiles, even fed them new victims.
      If the Roman Catholic Church was any other kind of organization (non religious) it would have been closed down and outlawed its leaders arrested and brought to trial. There is only one reason that this has not happened the Church is very powerful and its members refuse to accept the brutal disgusting truth.
      The pathetic example that you provided of what happened in Norway etc is a very childish reaction. The main difference there is those were terrible isolated incidents. The Rape and abuse in the Catholic church was institutionalized.

  • Rita Maciulyte 14/08/11 #
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    One thing I dont understand about the argument of adoption and children is; who came up with the outdated idea that a child cannot grow up with two parents of the same sex? Would it not be logical to assume that these people can raise a child just as well behaved and as loved as any other child?

    I also dont understand why people must grow up with the idea that gay people are against religious laws therefore they are living ‘unnatural’ lives – Honestly that argument only works if you are actually a devoted Catholic and if you actually aren’t do not try bring forth such an argument because it is clearly not your place.
    If you are a devoted Catholic and you believe everything that it preaches – you are also entitled to your opinion.
    But these people that love a man/woman ‘unnaturally’ still love each other whether you ‘approve’ or not, they still live together, they still sleep in the same bed together. Why must these people be discriminated because they have the same genitals? (Sorry to be vulgar) If the world is to progress – minds too have to progress and open.
    And yes they ARE looking for attention – it is attention for their cause which means they march to ATTRACT attention to themselves – dimwits whoever questioned this.

    Look at the world around you – man and woman are not ALWAYS man and woman in a sacred union – It is not always sacred and it is not always what is more ‘natural’.

    Then again – Maybe I’m young enough to see no wrong in these things and some people have grown up with different morals and ideals. All in all – the march is in no way harming either side of this argument.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Well, for your information I think I might know a thing or two about being abused. I was taken away from my parents as a baby and it was my married parents who abused me. I am not that naive to think that all is a bed of roses and sunshine in marriage. I do also know that not all children are brought up in a loving home with a mammy and a daddy. To be in a loving home with a natural mother and father who care for their children is something which I do believe is sacred probably because I didn’t have it myself. And further more, I am not homophobic. I have friends who are gay. I treasure their friendship as much as any of my friends who are straight. There is one difference though, between them and you. They do not seek to draw constant attention to their sexuality and look for the spotlight to do so. They also don’t attack me for not supporting civil marriage between same-sex couples. They know I am a catholic and they are practicing too. Fair play to them is all I can say and in fact I respect them even more because of their struggles and their sincere loyalty and love of their faith.

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    • Rita Maciulyte 14/08/11 #
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      That is your personal opinion and experience. But maybe just as you find natural parents sacred, their oppression causes them to constantly drag attention to themselves. Its psychological. It isnt that long Ireland even half accepted gay rights, and gay people act out on this, they celebrate it and I dont really see it as a bad thing to want to celebrate. Gays dont want to mimic sacred Christian marriage – they want equal rights. The want to raise children is not created by Christianity.

    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      But you said all gay people were attention seekers! And you have said that gays live an unnatural life, so if you have gay friends show them all you’ve said here and if they stay your friend then I’d be gobsmacked.

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    Looks like it was hundreds rather than thousands that attended – rent a crowd must have cost that noise organisation a pretty penny

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    The issue of two men sleeping together or two women sleeping together is up to the individuals involved.
    I am not suddenly going to leap into their bedroom with a bible and tell them what they are doing is wrong you know. They have free will and can jolly well do what ever they wish. However, a marriage is between a man and a woman and naturally a child can be brought into the world as a result. That gift is a treasure in a marriage, natural and between a mother and a father and this is sacred.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      As a result, not as a requirement.

    • Eoghan Ryan 14/08/11 #
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      Wow, that’s really useful information – all those mixed sex couples spending thousands on IVF could save themselves a wad of cash by opting for a wedding instead.

      Or does the "marriage=babies" rule only apply to same-sex couples?

    • mr g 14/08/11 #
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      Sarah I agree with you. Eoghan myself and my wife had to under go ivf. Don’t dish it. I can tell you now that it is very strict and there is no way a legitimate clinic would entertain a gay couple. Sarah is right here. I recently had a similar disagreement with a friend who is gay and thought I mean really believed that gay couples could just go in to a clinic get "spare" eggs/sperm and have their baby, when I corrected this person they then told me that they could just buy an African baby " gaybe" gays make little of conceiving a child and marriage because they know nothing about it, how dare any gay talk about ivf

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Gays do love attention and march. You have just proved it. My friends who are gay don’t.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      So some gays do and some don’t? Bit of a far cry from your earlier sentiments, but we wouldn’t have to march if we were allowed get married.
      Cos then we won’t have anything to march for, we’d be properly equal and maybe society would be better for me and for my family who want me to be equal and for my friends who want to be treated equal and for the kids who kill themselves every year, or live in fear because of this, the last state sponsored acceptable form of discrimination.
      In fact you’d never hear from us again, not from me anyway.

    • Rita Maciulyte 14/08/11 #
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      Your friends are not the definition of ‘gay’ Sarah. Im sure many prefered to stay home while others didnt. The people that are there are not the population of the gay community. Your argument is childish and a sweeping statement.

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      Never assume MM

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Of course, infertility is a painful issue. I am also aware of personal choice. Some choose not to be parents or just don’t. Marriage does provide the best for a child in a loving, strong union of its mother and father in a marriage.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      But I have made my personal choice not to have kids Sarah. Can I get married now? Please? Can I get married to the person i love just because i love them? I don’t want children.

    • Rita Maciulyte 14/08/11 #
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      A strong union can be made between a man and a woman who adopt a child and the child may never know they are adopted. Do you say these people must not adopt? Or do you find some kind of childish outdated idea that a man and a woman are so different they are ideally womanly and manly and that environment is the only environment suitable for a child? Open your mind a tiny bit. If a single woman can raise a family two people of the same sex can exceptionally raise a family.

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    My friends are not the definition of your experience of gays Rita.

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  • Anthony O'Donnell 14/08/11 #
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    i’d like to teach the world to sing in perfect harmony ,grow apple trees and honey bee’s and snow white turtle doves all together now . If it were a serious proposition it would have been hundreds of thousands.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Matt, you can choose to have children/ or not to have them. That is entirely up to you as you know. The answer to your question is not up to me.

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  • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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    I don’t care about children I just want to get married, now, in light have what your arguments against gay marriage have been and now that I’ve removed children from the equation, would you be ok with me entering into a same-sex marriage?

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    It depends on whether the laws change or not. You do not need my approval to do anything as you should know.
    So, why do you ask?

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  • Brian Kelleher 14/08/11 #
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    You know Cindy…

    If you read my comment a little more carefully you’ll find that I wasn’t claiming that that particular comment was shoving his opinion down my throat – it was the fact that he said the same thing practically word-for-word over and over in this thread. It would annoy me just as much if a pro-gay marriage person did the same. The point of my comment was totally separate to the issue of the article. The point was that he was flooding the thread with what was essentially the same comment.

    Way to call me out on the wrong comment there Cindy. Try any other of my comments on this page in future.

    Just so we’re clear, I’m not actively part of “the Gay cause”, I’m part of the overwhelming majority (as evidenced by this poll and The Sunday Times/Red C poll) that passively supports their cause. Deal with it.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Why is it so important to get my approval or disapproval?

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    • Rita Maciulyte 14/08/11 #
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      It really is not Sarah, you put yourself into this argument with your personal experiences & ideals in mind.

    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      Because you keep saying the only reason you’re against gay marriage is because of the child factor. I’m just wondering if there’s something else that bothers you about two men or two women who love eachother and since im now only talking purely about that love and not and love related to children you should have no problem with someone who doesn’t want to have children engaging in a same sex marriage.

      So, do you?

    • Anthony O'Donnell 15/08/11 #
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      Sarah thats what needy homosexuals want approval , or their lifestyle is a lie.

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      Rita, pointing out the obvious is hardly a post.

  • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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    Also, im sick of all the “children need two parents” bullshit being proclaimed without evidence that says they’ll be worse with same sex ones, so here’s some evidence on the contrary for people to read:

    http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2010/06/07/peds.2009-3153.abstract

    Objectives: The objective of this study was to document the psychological adjustment of adolescents who were conceived through donor insemination by lesbian mothers who enrolled before these offspring were born in the largest, longest running, prospective, longitudinal study of same-sex–parented families.

    Methods: Between 1986 and 1992, 154 prospective lesbian mothers volunteered for a study that was designed to follow planned lesbian families from the index children’s conception until they reached adulthood. Data for the current report were gathered through interviews and questionnaires that were completed by 78 index offspring when they were 10 and 17 years old and through interviews and Child Behavior Checklists that were completed by their mothers at corresponding times. The study is ongoing, with a 93% retention rate to date.

    Results: According to their mothers’ reports, the 17-year-old daughters and sons of lesbian mothers were rated significantly higher in social, school/academic, and total competence and significantly lower in social problems, rule-breaking, aggressive, and externalizing problem behavior than their age-matched counterparts in Achenbach’s normative sample of American youth. Within the lesbian family sample, no Child Behavior Checklist differences were found among adolescent offspring who were conceived by known, as-yet-unknown, and permanently unknown donors or between offspring whose mothers were still together and offspring whose mothers had separated.

    Conclusions: Adolescents who have been reared in lesbian-mother families since birth demonstrate healthy psychological adjustment. These findings have implications for the clinical care of adolescents and for pediatricians who are consulted on matters that pertain to same-sex parenting.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Rita, I am adopted.

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    • Rita Maciulyte 14/08/11 #
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      Exactly and as you put it it was not a happy adoption, and you also did say you think a union between man and woman is sacred because you did not have it. I did not have it either, and I dont really think any sort of marriage is more sacred than another. Marriage is love between two people willing to build their lives together.
      What if we put a different word on same sex marriage with all the same rights in place? Would that make it right? If you are straight of course you would glorify your ideal of marriage and children over gay marriage and vice versa – it is opinion and taste. I am straight but I honestly do not see any reason my friends should they ever get married to not have a child, the only barrier is biology. If one is not religious and does not believe man and woman have their bodies for specific functions there should be no reason they shouldnt adopt. Looking at the evidence Matt gives… What problem is involved with same sex families? It is only an ideal people have in their minds – man and woman. Culture changes, minds change, psychology changes.

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      @ Sarah…Im not surprised…if you were mine Id give you away too you fuckin loony!

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      Rita, you didn’t even read my post properly. I said my adoption was a happy time not a bad experience. It was my natural parents situation which was bad. Can you not even read properly and understand a post.

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      Cormac, Fortunately you were not my parents. They were unwell. They were not just unkind and nasty like you. Calling me a loony makes you feel smart. Shallow, hollow and rude, insulting and rude is all your comment is.

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      Oh its Glenn Carroll not Cormac now.

    • Rita Maciulyte 17/08/11 #
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      Why are you even bothering posting anymore and clogging up my email with your replies? Actually give up your troll minded replies by now… Just stop.

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      Rita, I’m sorry.

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    I never said a child was the only reason to get married. As I have explained, people do not always want, have or can have children. The facts you have gone to the trouble of finding convince you of the benefits of same-sex parenting. Children do not need any two parents. They need two responsible, loving, caring parents who brought them into the world and the involvement of a male and a female influence in their lives. Not abusive males and females. That is ideal and natural as far as I am concerned.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      Right, I see 17 years of evidence doesn’t change your mind at all. Well what’s the other reason to get married Sarah, please enlighten me. Because to me and probably millions of people marriage is about love. Is that the other reason? And if so do you think two people of the same sex can love each other? Yes or no, simple question but there’ll be a telling answer.

    • Rita Maciulyte 14/08/11 #
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      The world does not always spin in accordance to natural biology, and thats a fact. So I dont understand why children who are put up for adoption should not have same sex parents instead of a man and a woman who would also not be their biological parents. Also, as culture and the world progresses to be more radical than it was before – do you not believe the ideology of ‘man’ and ‘woman’ is slowly being fused into one? As they become more equal (slowly) do you not see that soon the only difference between man and woman will be their sex? Sex will always be the same, but gender changes with culture. It is not all black and white as it was before where the woman would stay home and the man would work. So why should same sex couples not progress?

  • Donnacha Bushe 14/08/11 #
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    I support marriage equality.
    One of the images of the march shown on the weekly news round-up showed a banner saying ‘Don’t be a muppet – support marriage equality.’ While I empathize with the rage of the gay community whose rights are being denied, and understand it can be next-to-impossible to respect people who oppose basic human rights, I think such banners are probably unhelpful inasmuch as they primarily preach to the converted.
    Maybe some opponents of equality will, on seeing that banner, will become aware of their muppetational tendencies. I think many more will take offence and be less likely to consider the overwhelming arguments in favor of equality.
    I work on the principle that it’s better to explain why an argument is idiotic and oppressive than to call believers in that argument idiots and oppressors. (Admittedly, space limitations on banners limit the capacity for nuance.)
    I see this mostly as being a question a question of presentation and tactics. Having seen many clever and witty banners in favor of marriage equality, I think that’s a better way to go.
    I accept I might be wrong to seek to call upon people to self-censor their legitimate rage at their opponents. I would be interested to hear arguments in favor of such provocative banners. I guess I’m writing this because I happen to know and like some ‘muppets’ who have gradually shaken off many of their conservative views over the years, but remain opposed to marriage equality. As far as I can see, they’re the swing vote and, however misguided they are, I think they’re open to persuasion.
    Maybe, as a straight person I don’t fully understand all of the emotions involved but I do my best, in discussion with friends to support the cause.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    No, Rita. I was born into an abusive home by two married people. My adoption was a happy experience. I didn’t have a happy childhood with my natural parents. I never experienced it there. My childhood was blessed with two very caring people. I would not be alive today without them as I was neglected as a small baby. I was under developed physically and had development problems too. I never had a happy time with my natural parents and I don’t really blame them. They had huge problems and needed a lot of support themselves. Because, I was not born into a loving home I am especially aware of how sacred a happy marriage can be and if marriage is as good as my adopted parents have then I wish all marriages were as good.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Love is part of the reason.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    No.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      Well there we have it, a same-sex marriage can’t be good. What’s the other reason for a couple to get married Sarah if they definitely don’t want children? LOVE. But you say only love is part of the reason – for some people it’s the only reason. What’s the point in there being children in any marriage if there’s no love between the parents?

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    You have the civil partnership option.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      No, there’s differences pertaining to that that aren’t even got to do with children, and before you say “we’ll fix the differences” and marriage and civil partnership are basically the same, they’ll never be the same until they’re both spelled M-A-R-R-I-A-G-E.

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Love is part of the reason. It depends on how capable a person is to be married. Some love each other but it is not enough.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Supposing an alcoholic and a schizophrenic and they love each other. You say love is all you need. It is not always enough.

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    • Rita Maciulyte 14/08/11 #
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      Thats getting into a whole different area not involving this argument.

    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      Does it bother you if they love eachother? And I’m talking about two people of the same sex who have no physical or mental diseases or disabilities (since you seem to think marriage isn’t for sick people).

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      Stop clutching at straws. A schizophrenic that is in treatment and a recovering Alcoholic can have a perfectly functioning marriage that is a non argument.

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Believe me I do know. It can be a disaster.

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  • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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    I’m not talking about that, I’m talking about people who are free from ailments, even ailments like those mentioned that can be cured and controlled.

    Do you think that two gay people who don’t want kids, EVER and who LOVE each other and who DO NOT HAVE ANY MENTAL ILLNESSES should be allowed marry each other? Just a simple yes or no will suffice.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    I think there are some times grounds for some people who are not able to commit to marriage and all its vows.
    I don’t think two mentally ill people can say that love is enough before they commit. I don’t think they are able to be there in a practical, loving way for each other.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      Avoidance Sarah, I already got rid of those and also, it’s civil marriage, not religion. By saying what you said about mentally ill people even though I explicitly said that the couple in this hypothetical situation had no mental illnesses, are you insinuating that homosexuality is a mental disease?

    • Rita Maciulyte 14/08/11 #
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      But as you said… ‘Why is it so important to get my approval or disapproval?” – Its not important because now you are arguing for marriage altogether instead of the issue we were discussing – same sex marriage. The problems you find can be found in hetrosexual and homosexual marriages. Matt simply asked about same sex marriages rather than marriage as a whole. I think this argument between us is over now.

    • Joe Sixtwo 14/08/11 #
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      What vows would prevent anybody from marrying ?

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    They need to be able to try and take care of their problems and then see if they can be married. Not walk in to marriage in a disastrous state and end up in despair.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Homosexuality is not a mental disease.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    I was referring to my natural parents when I mentioned mental illness

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    I don’t know.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    I was referring to my own parents Rita and my own experience. I am aware that most marriages are not like my parents thankfully. Those problems are suffered by gay and straight people. I never said it was only straight people. Marriage is chosen by a husband and wife who are loving and capable of being there for each other.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    And my approval or disapproval as you Rita and Mike have said is not necessary or important at all. I just exercised my right to express my opinion as you did and I wish you both the very best in your lives and happiness and good health.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    What vows would prevent anyone from marrying?

    Not being able to live by them after making them.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Stop clutching at straws. I’m not. My experience proved to me that the schizophrenic refused treatment and the alcoholic was violent.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    If I had same-sex parents who had looked after me well – you ask.

    I think a good mother and a father are the way things are for a reason and you need both in your life.

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  • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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    Firstly my name is Matthew.
    Secondly, well answer my question that isn’t about your parents but about a perfectly healthy same sex couple in love, and don’t want children. Do you agree that they should be allowed marry each other?
    Or do you just not want gays to be allowed to get married at all, there by infringing in their lives in such a way that you’d despise it if it was done to you.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    The Catholic Church’s reaction and handling of the abuse of children is for them to answer. I am not their spokesperson. I made a simple comment that to blame all Catholics for the abuse is like blaming all doctors for Harold Shipman etc. The reason I did so was because a contributor here was quick to remind me of the abuse stories which were not dealt with in a fair, proper manner by the Church authorities simply because I am a catholic. That is why I said don’t tar all catholics with the same brush no more than you would tar all doctors because of Harold Shipman. That is why I used these examples. As for Matthew Mulligan my answer to your question is simple – No. I don’t believe gays should marry.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      And it only took a couple of hours to show that your problem doesn’t actually lie with children being brought up by same sex couples, it lies with you not wanting other people to have the same rights you have.

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    The laws show you can’t marry. I didn’t make them.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Ciaran, sorry I don’t remember any thing at all coming from you except for the last post full of insults.

    Matt Mulligan, I answered your question and you didn’t like the answer. That is your problem. Not mine.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      The reasoning you gave was that you didn’t make the laws, so to be honest it was a stupid answer, passing the buck on to someone else. But whatever, i had a nice time at the march today and when I’m older if I can’t get married here I’ll go to one of the many countries or cities or jurisdictions and think of you on my honeymoon night ;)

    • Rita Maciulyte 14/08/11 #
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      You didnt make the laws… But it would be a disaster if you did. Yeah he didnt write anything else except the insults because everyone else here has to read your one lined bullshit based on your own personal experiences nobody cares about and has nothing to do with the argument.

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      Rita, my comment was to the chap who made the post not you.

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    I didn’t make the laws that you are trying to change.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Not my problem.

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  • willy pearse 14/08/11 #
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    Sarah. I have read most of your posts here. You are close to reasonable. Tell me exactly why gay people can’t marry?

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Just facts Matt. I still won’t see it as a marriage Matt because it is not recognised in my country.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Could you explain the sentence You are close to reasonable please.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Willy, slow to answer my question. Rita, I don’t care about any of your remarks either.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    So stop demanding to hear the answer you want to hear from me then.

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    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      Why, does it not feel good to have that answer out in the open? I was within my rights to ask why you objected, is that not why you were commenting? Ok bye bye

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Willy, you didn’t answer me either.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Can we just agree to disagree?

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    I answered your question matt already. You didn’t like it so you begged to hear the answer you wanted. Not my problem.

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  • Maurice Kiely 14/08/11 #
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    It seems only a few hundred turned up for today’s march, not the thousands that were predicted. I believe it’s because the majority of people in Ireland don’t want SSM. I agree with Sarah, a marriage should be between one man and one woman – it’s the best environment to bring up a child in, all things being equal.

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    • Rita Maciulyte 14/08/11 #
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      Of course if you read my arguments already you’d see my counter argument to this. …All that said I will be one to raise my family by being a wife and I would have a husband. Im just arguing against prejudice and what I see as outdated. But you know my argument, and that is yours. Fair enough.

    • Eoghan Ryan 14/08/11 #
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      Eh what? The article right up there is part of a wider set of articles that report, repeatedly and consistently, poll after poll showing that we do favour extension if marriage rights to same sex couples.

    • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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      You’re also someone who believes that homosexuality is a mental disease and can be cured by therapy so you are clearly someone who is disturbed and spends too much time thinking about homosexuals yourself.

    • Maurice Kiely 14/08/11 #
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      @Matt

      You’re being unfair. And as I posted above, I’ve seen “cured” homosexuals marching in the states. And it’s a topical issue, so I do think about it, yes. I think about lots of things.

    • Glenn Carroll 15/08/11 #
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      It seems your talking bollox Maurice…4000 to 5000 turned up actually. And no, homosexuals cannot be cured because there is nothing to cure, this is scientific fact! I think your friend who thinks he/she was ‘cured’ was actually brain washed, probably by someone as deluded as yourself.

  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Oh Bye Bye to you too Matt and Co.

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  • Sarah Hayes 14/08/11 #
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    Thanks Maurice.

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  • willy pearse 14/08/11 #
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    I am sooo bored with idiots thinking about sexuality. What we all need is a good ride! Anyway we want it. Ride Sally ride. And stick your repression up your ass

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  • Matt Mulligan 14/08/11 #
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    No, I’m not being unfair. Homosexuality IS NOT a curable disease. NO medical council in the world thinks it is. And if people’s sexual orientation can be changed why do you never hear of heterosexuals becoming homosexual?
    It’s a false, dangerous belief. There are videos on youtube of young teenagers being “exorcised” or demonised by people trying to cast the homosexuality out of them, to them it’s justified because it’s “curable”.

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    • Maurice Kiely 15/08/11 #
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      I know of literature that tells of heteros becoming homosexuals through progression in sexual addiction. It appears they cross lines and adopt all the values of gays, and have gay sex etc. Apart from that, no, I’ve never heard of a mature heterosexual becoming gay.

      Yes, I concede there are unqualified exorcisms and I don’t agree with what you describe.
      But if it’s a false, dangerous belief, how do you explain the hundreds of “cured” homosexuals I saw in the states. They exist. You may argue that they were never gay in the first place, but they all claim to have been 100% gay and have managed to change their orientation. It’s very interesting, wouldn’t you agree?

    • Matt Mulligan 15/08/11 #
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      What are gay values Maurice?

    • Matt Mulligan 15/08/11 #
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      And it’s not as interesting as the pastors and therapists of these places that end up being found out as being homosexuals themselves, and who have made a lot of money off of the gullible.

    • Maurice Kiely 15/08/11 #
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      Attraction to people of the same sex. Emotional, romantic, physical etc. That’s what I meant.

    • Matt Mulligan 15/08/11 #
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      So you meant gay, not gay values. Because gay “values” has connotations of a certain code that gay people would live by and never change from. Almost like an agenda. But yeah, simple mistake. And I’d love to know where you happened to come across these “hundreds of “cured” homosexuals” in the states. Were they all together in one big group or something?

    • Maurice Kiely 15/08/11 #
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      They marched as a group some years ago in NY to share their stories with anyone who would listen, and to give the lie to the belief that sexual orientation is as fixed as some would imagine.

    • Matt Mulligan 15/08/11 #
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      It’s not fixable. And the people who run these organisations turn out to be gay themselves and have made a lot of money off of the gullible, poor people who go to them.

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeqT8brQaOQ
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wXcWygr8vEM

      there’s many more stories of people like this, and others.

    • Maurice Kiely 15/08/11 #
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      @Matt

      I just watched the first video. You’ve given me food for thought.
      However, the people I’m referring to were all adult gays who say they’ve been changed to hetero through spiritual principles. I feel sorry for kids who have to go through what was shown in the video, but it’s a different issue.

    • Matt Mulligan 15/08/11 #
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      No it’s not a different issue, either it’s curable or it isn’t, either it’s dangerous or it isn’t and either it’s possible or it isn’t. And it is most definitely not curable, impossible, but extremely dangerous.

    • Maurice Kiely 15/08/11 #
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      @swimtwobirds

      Care to elaborate on that?

    • swimtwobirds 15/08/11 #
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      No Maurice, I think that covers it.

    • John Banfield 15/08/11 #
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      Maurice they aren’t "cured". They ARE gay. Thayer are still engaging in gay sex, just on the down low. If you think otherwise, you are a fool.

    • John Banfield 15/08/11 #
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      Oops, typo. Damn iPad.

  • Donnacha Bushe 15/08/11 #
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    Sarah
    The Journal has two features for comments: Add New Comment, and Reply.
    Add New Comment results in a new comment displaying at the bottom of the thread.
    Reply results in a new comment displaying in indented form below the comment you want to reply to.
    If you have a half-baked objection to what someone else says, think about it for at least 10 minutes, consider the immense offense you might cause a large number of people, use neither of these features, and make a cup of tea.

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  • Sarah Hayes 15/08/11 #
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    I agree with you Maurice. It is very interesting reading your findings.

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  • Matt Mulligan 15/08/11 #
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    What findings? He saw a parade? A MARCH? Where as when I give you an actual 17 year long study carried out in america by an official government organisation you just fob it off. I don’t believe what I’m hearing, seriously.

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    • mr g 15/08/11 #
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      Matt stop pushing you gay ideas on other people, there is more to life than gays! Get over it. A referendum is needed.

    • Matt Mulligan 15/08/11 #
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      Well I’m gay so all of my ideas are gay unfortunately. If you have such a problem with gay ideas why are you on this page? And when someone tells me NO you can’t do this, only straight people can, then it’s a bit difficult to get over, especially when there’s only idiocy and stupid rhetoric coming form the other side instead of evidence or facts or proper arguments.

    • Matt Mulligan 15/08/11 #
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      and it’s a thread about gays, what else would I be fucking talking about?

    • Sarah Hayes 15/08/11 #
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      Mr. G I agree with you.

    • swimtwobirds 15/08/11 #
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      Mr g – enough already, either say you disapprove of gay marriage, or you disapprove of gay people, but enough with the passive aggressive ‘don’t push your gay agenda on me’ bulls**t. It doesn’t fly.

  • Sarah Hayes 15/08/11 #
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    Thanks Maurice. I find that a very interesting piece that you wrote about the people who marched in New York.

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    • swimtwobirds 15/08/11 #
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      He didn’t ‘write an interesting piece,’ he floated something that sits between anecdotal and apocryphal – read the response with links detailing what those organizations are about, and the way they prey on gay people in difficult emotional circumstances.

    • Maurice Kiely 15/08/11 #
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      @swimtwobirds

      Apocryphal? These people weren’t in difficult emotional circumstances to my knowledge. I think you’re the idiot.

    • Rita Maciulyte 15/08/11 #
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      can you not see by now sarah that you should stop posting by the mass dislike of anything you write?

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      I don’t need your permission Rita to write or shut up. I’ll decide for myself so don’t worry yourself about it.

  • Sarah Hayes 15/08/11 #
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    That is something I had never heard about before/ It was in the States, will try and find out more about it in the future.

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    • swimtwobirds 15/08/11 #
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      No really Sarah – don’t bother – it’s total manipulative bullish**t.

    • Donnacha Bushe 15/08/11 #
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      Looks like you haven’t made that cup of tea and you haven’t learnt the distinction between Reply and Add New Comment. The thread is becoming unreadable.

    • swimtwobirds 15/08/11 #
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      Careful Maurice, as a heterosexual if you get too angry, and sneeze at the same time, your sexual orientation flips. I’m serious – you turn gay on the spot. A Yorkshire terrier told me that in a park. And if you’re gay and you stand in the street while people scream at you ‘don’t be gay’ you turn straight, it’s just amazing Maurice. I read all this on the Internet. Or maybe it was on a piece of toilet paper – I can’t quite remember. But just be careful Maurice. If you can exorcise the gay out, you can sneeze the gay in. That’s the important thing for you to remember Maurice. This makes sense to you right?

    • Matt Mulligan 15/08/11 #
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      Yeah Maurice, encourage her to look about them, but not about the stuff that I showed you that you just admitted gave you food for thought. Is it just one huge game of oneupmanship here? Do you not actually care about what’s truth and what’s false?

    • Maurice Kiely 15/08/11 #
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      @swimtwobirds

      I think you’re drunk. You’re not even a funny drunk.

    • swimtwobirds 15/08/11 #
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      Nice try ad hominem Maurice. You’re still pretty stupid, and not a fun stupid.

    • Glenn Carroll 15/08/11 #
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      Maurice I don’t think swintwobirds is drunk and I think he/she is both funny and shows you just how ridicules, out dated and bigoted your beliefs are.

    • Maurice Kiely 15/08/11 #
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      Well, you have a long way to go yet in Ireland. A referendum would be defeated. Then what? And what’s on the agenda after that? Age of consent? I think the Constitution will be changed to reflect marriage as between one man and one woman like in many US States.

    • swimtwobirds 15/08/11 #
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      At no time did you stop being an idiot Maurice – at no time.

    • Matt Mulligan 15/08/11 #
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      The fact you assume gay people want to change the age of consent, coupled with your stupid delusion about homosexuality being curable shows that you just have a problem with gays.

    • Sarah Hayes 17/08/11 #
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      Mrs Doyle, go away with your cup of tea. I already said no thanks.

  • Errol Thomas 15/08/11 #
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    I’m not really sure why some people are against same sex marriage… if you don’t like same sex marriage, then maybe you don’t get same sex married! But why deny others the right to have the same opportunities as the majority of other people in this country?!

    I’ve read through all of the arguments above, and the argument against same sex marriage is the fact that it should be between a man and a woman. This is based on Canon Law. If you look to the Constitution, under Article 41, there is no mention that this is a requirement for a marriage in this country. What the article does state is that The State pledges itself to guard with special care the institution of marriage, on which the family is founded, and to protect it against it against attack. Again to reiterate, there is no reference in the Constitution that a marriage is based upon one between a man and a woman.
    To deny the gay community of what is a basic human right IS an act of discrimination. I really don’t know why some of the commentators above are trying to suggest otherwise.

    On a purely economic note, the Government should think about the amount of cash the gay community would be willing to spend on marriage in this country. It would generate a lot more jobs in the hotel industry and in addition would generate more revenue for the Government. I myself am getting married to my boyfriend next year, and we are choosing to go to another country that will provide us with our full title, even if our own country won’t recognize it. All I ask for is some respect in allowing me have my marriage and not to have it attacked by some people don’t agree with it. My fiancé and I being married won’t affect anyone else so why try take that away?

    I’m not even going to address the issue of adoption/child protection as I feel Matt has provided a good argument and backed it up with detailed evidence.

    As I mentioned, if you don’t like same sex marriage… then don’t get same sex married!!!

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    I personally think gay marriage is not only fair but Im no way should offend anybody. If you disagree with Gay marriage that is something that doesnt need to be aired because lets face it, it will never effect people it offends. Similarly I wish people would relax on the attacks on religious people, because lets face it those views will never effect the people it offends. Ireland is now more or less a secular society if religious people oppose progress let them, the majority will outvote them and they can seek solace in their beliefs. No need for conflict.

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  • Sarah Hayes 18/08/11 #
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    MESSAGE FROM SARAH HAYES
    I WISH TO APOLOGISE TO ANYONE I HAVE OFFENDED ON THIS COMMENT BOARD. I SINCERELY APOLOGISE FOR ALL HURT WHICH I HAVE CAUSED ANYONE HERE. I AM VERY SORRY.

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  • Sarah Hayes 18/08/11 #
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    I KNOW VERY WELL FROM EXPERIENCE WHAT IT IS LIKE TO BE TREATED BADLY AND HAVE SUFFERED FROM IT. I JUST AM DEEPLY SORRY AND I BELIEVE THIS IS THE LAST TIME I EVER TAKE PART IN A INTERNET FORUM. ANNOYING PEOPLE AND INSULTING IS SOMETHING THAT I WILL NOT BE REPEATING.
    I’M VERY SORRY.

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    • Sarah Hayes 18/08/11 #
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      IT IS CLEARLY NOT WITHIN MY TALENTS TO DISCUSS THIS TOPIC ON A FORUM LIKE THIS BECAUSE OF MY FIRM BELIEFS ON THIS ISSUE BUT I GENUINELY AM SORRY FOR ANY HURT WHICH MY COMMENTS CAUSED DESPITE MY OPPOSITE VIEWS AND BELIEFS.

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