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'Losing a spouse is soul-destroying, but you need to be prepared'

“You never think it’s going to happen to you.”

DOMINIC CASEY WAS diagnosed with leukemia in May 2010. He died just 10 weeks later at the age of 46.

His widow Aiveen is sharing her family’s story in a bid to encourage more people to take out life insurance.

“Dealing with grief is a horrendous process and unfortunately there’s no blueprint. Nobody can prepare you for such a soul-destroying situation.

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“As a family we tried to look after each other and get through it together, but you soon come to the realisation that life has to go on – the bills keep coming in and the cost of running a home doesn’t stop.”

Aiveen said Dominic pushed for the couple to take out life insurance shortly after they married.

He always wanted to know that if anything ever happened to him that financially we would be okay. We never thought we’d have to use it.

Aiveen and Dominic have three children, now aged 23, 18 and ten. She said the fact they had life insurance “made a very difficult time a little more bearable” as day-to-day costs such as school books, uniforms, running a car and other bills added up.

“You never think it’s going to happen to you,” she said of losing a spouse.

Aiveen has gone public with her story as a part of a laya life campaign.

Source: Laya Healthcare/YouTube

Aiveen said she wants anyone who is currently dealing with this type of bereavement to know things will get better.

It’s a very, very dark time but you do come out of it … You have to wake up every morning and have to keep positive.

“If someone is in that awful situation and they feel this is not going to away I want them to know that things will improve.”

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