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This photographer has caused a social media storm for telling wedding guests to leave their phones at home

Photographer Thomas Stewart appeared to hit a nerve with his recent Facebook post. Do you agree?

Photographer Thomas Stewart appears to have hit a nerve of truth with people after addressing the issue of mobile phones and cameras at weddings.

His post has been widely shared on Facebook and he has given permission to republish it. So, do you agree? 

RIGHT, I’VE HAD enough. I want to talk to you all about guests using mobile phones / cameras at weddings. I want to plead with you, and I’m going to make this very simple: brides and grooms, please have a completely unplugged wedding ceremony.

Look at this photo. This groom had to lean out past the aisle just to see his bride approaching. Why? Because guests with their phones were in the aisle and in his way.

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This sucks. And I’m not blaming these guests in particular. I actually take a large amount of responsibility for this occurring.

In the past, I should have been more specific with my clients in explaining to them why guests should be told no photos. Well, from now on, I’m going to make a pretty big deal about it.

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If you’re planning a wedding, please consider these points:

1. Guests with phones, iPads and cameras get right in your photographer’s way. They have no idea how to stay out of our way. They often ruin many of our shots.

They will make our photos worse. You’re paying a photographer quite a bit of money. That means you want great photos. We cannot do our best work with people getting in our way. 

2. These same guests will get in YOUR way. You will miss moments of your own wedding day because they will be an iPad in the way. You will miss seeing your partner’s face in the aisle.

3. The guests’ photos are usually crap. I’m sorry, but it is true. You can’t take great photos with your camera phone by leaning into the aisle of a dark church to photograph a moving subject. Hell, even lots of professionals have trouble with this.

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And finally, the most important point:

4. Imagine you’re in the middle of your wedding ceremony. You’re elated. You decide to take a quick glance towards your guests as you’re sure they’re sharing these happy moments with you, possibly even shedding a tear of their own. What do you see? No faces, at all, as they are all hidden behind phones and cameras! I highly doubt this is the way you want to remember your wedding ceremony.

In your invites, tell everyone you’re having an unplugged ceremony: no technology, please. Write it on a chalkboard which guests can see as they arrive on the day. Tell your celebrant / minister / priest to tell the guests at the start of the ceremony. HIRE A PLANE TO WRITE IT IN THE SKY!

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And guests, you’ve been invited to this wedding to share and celebrate the love that two people feel for each other.

They didn’t invite you along to take photographs that they probably won’t really look at anyway.

They want you there with them in heart and soul, and they want to see your tear-filled eyes as you form part of their wedding ceremony. You are witnesses to their marriage, so for goodness sake, watch them with your eyes and your minds, not your phones.

So, guests please, for my sake, and for the sake of the two people getting married, leave your cameras at home and put your phones / iPads away.

We want to know what you think? 

Should the use of cameras by guests be banned at weddings? 

Poll Results:

Yes (8925)
No (2417)
I don't know (660)

Thomas Stewart is a photographer based in Sydney. You can visit his website here and his Facebook page here

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