Good for you Eric. Far too many good men getting caught-out early in life!. Only lads in their late 30′s should start thinking about getting ball & chained.

@Eric, you can’t be happy all your life.

@Frank haha i’ll try my best!

Slap’stick, do you really think the only reason men marry is because they’re “caught out”? Seriously? If so I have to inform you that that’s not the case and if you’re that unhappy you should look at seperation. A lot of people joke about marriage as an endurance trial. That just makes the people in genuinely unhappy marriages assume all marriages are like that and stay there, miserable, when they needn’t.

LOL.You think people in unhappy marriages really believe that?
If they do the reason they are unhappy is because they are thick and possibly married to a lamp post.

Sorry Aoife, I can’t agree with you there.

@ Aoife

Ahhh 7 years.

When I was married 7 years i was a bit concerned about the old itch and, you know, you need to work to maintain that spark in the relationship and the Internet is wonderful source of advice. I mean the relationship forums. So anyway one evening I suggested tentatively that perhaps we should maybe try some different positions and she said fine, good idea, You stand by the sink and do the dishes and I’ll lie on the couch and fart

Gimp mask instead of a veil

If you ask my wife it’s been married to me.

I like it clothesline !! :)

A gimp mask and a nice semi.
Crudely wedded bliss….

How? Heteros will continue to marry and divorce each other as they please. Marriage equality won’t chance that….

*change

Headline is marriage rates fall, I assume ted is saying allowing gay people to marry will mean increase in overall marriage rates. Nothing else.

@ted

This was your chance to have a little word with Michelle over the whole marriage thing and you blew it. Are u still a little bit upset over the whole comment removal thing??

The more gay men taken off the market better because statistically it increases my chances with Michelle. Keep reaching for that rainbow, lads

Michelle is so beautiful.

Unfortunately In Ireland ,currently,it is still technically civil partnership ,by definition and this is why its not included in these stats .Disappointing tho …….

If this keeps up we could see the first cause of heras meant through comment pages

You assume

And how is life in your Trailer Park?

The big problem with that is if the woman leaves wtih the kids, the man has little to no rights.

Also if one dies the other has little to no rights (unless a will is made).

I was happily in a 10 year committed loving relationship with my husband before we got married. I dont believe that the big showy day out means that you love someone more. The main reason that we got married was to give my husband legal rights over our son. You can write a will if your not married but legally it means nothing.

Yeah and girls wanting a 10,000 euro ring when there is much better uses for that sort if money. A girl and a guy with a good head on there shoulders know a small get together of friends and family is all you need not wasting 10′s of 1,000′s in something that the girl wants , true love is having a happy family.

Ummm – so the conversation would be along the lines of – if you really love me you’ll understand that I can’t marry you because I’m very wealthy and I don’t trust you as I think if I do marry you once the ring is on the finger you will run off with my vast wealth. Yep, I’m sure she’ll understand. What a great relationship.

Well isn’t that essentially what a prenuptial agreement is? Except the courts dont abide to it. If she genuinely loves you as the person why should that piece of paper which essentially gives her half your wealth matter to her? Also remember that it doesnt work the other way around. Courts dont give husbands half of wives wealth. Then again if you are both broke then it makes sense to marry to avail of the tax benefits and pooling money together to buy property.

Find yourself another bird? Do you mean a crow instead of a magpie mypolitics1?

Your choice really, which ever blows your hair back.

Its not about money – its about being expected to marry someone who doesn’t trust you. Wealth is not something I look for in a guy. If I fell for and wanted to marry a guy who was wealthy I would be incredibly insulted that he thought so little of me that he wanted to safe guard against me screwing him over and also against our marriage ending before it even began!!! I wouldn’t marry a guy who had such a low opinion of me as that.

You might be less romantic about it if the knife was at your throat instead of his, CABK

The fact that you see it as a knife at the guys throat pretty much sums up my point!

The fact you don’t sums up mine. Blissful ignorance of a threat you’ll never face

What is this’ threat’ and ‘knife’ you are so worried about it? If it is honestly that the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with is only after your money, you either don’t trust the person, don’t love the person or are wracking with insecurities and low self esteem issues as you believe she won’t stay with you and work on your relationship. My point is all three of the above give a girl a very good reason not to marry said guy.

The knife was figurative

The threat was amply outlined by others. A married man is now in a position whereby his wife can simply order him out of his house and demand payment for the rest of her life any time she wants. It happens to men every day, and if it happened to women there’d be vigils to bring it to an end. Instead we get moralising about true love from someone who doesn’t have to worry about it

Plenty of women out there who are the wealthier half of the couple, be it through inheritance or earnings. What’s your advice for them my politics and chuck? I’m sure they’re dying to hear it

It would be great if you wouldn’t tar all women with the same brush. I make more than enough to look after myself. I have no intention of taking advantage of a man for his wealth, therefore I would expect at least the courtesy from him that he wouldn’t accuse me of it by refusing to marry me if he was wealthy or asking me to sign a pre-nup.

Like I said that points to trust issues and insecurities that the person he is supposed to be marrying won’t stick with him. That’s not a good foundation to base a marriage on and I for one wouldn’t marry a guy on that basis.

Bear in mind that my points are in relation to an original post by mypolitics who believes a women who truly loves a man will understand that he won’t marry her for his fear of her running off with her money.

I’ve no advice for them at all, Sinead. They aren’t in danger of the courts taking their money and/or home away and handing it to their ex so they don’t have to worry about it.

CABK, I didn’t tar ANY women whatsoever let alone all of them. I said that the threat exists men who get married, and not women.

Pretty sure your wrong there chuck. The courts usually rule in favour of the wife keeping the house cos she’s going to be the primary caregiver to the kids. If it was a case that the wife had left the family home and the husband was the primary caregiver, he would be awarded the house

Exactly. She won’t leave. He will be instructed to.

I’m sorry Chuck, but you are wrong in your assumptions. If a couple divorce and don’t have kids, assets are split 50/50.

If there are kids, there is a myriad of potential custody arrangements that the court, as arbitrator has to decide on. Any maintenance arrangements is primarily for the kids, and yes, that will often include one spouse remaining in the family home. Many divorcing couples agree to sell family home & go their own ways desperate to maintenance agreement.

If you judge marriage primarily on your perceptions of divorce, you are clearly not the marrying type!

…despite…

do u give him back some pocket money on a friday for himself then??

Cant paint them all with the same brust… There are ‘good ones’ out there, ones who put their kids frist, ones who dont drink or dont get drunk, ones who volunteer their time as kids soccer/ hurling / football coaches, ones who raise funds for charities, ones who cry at sad stories on the news, ones who are romantic and chivalrous. They can be found you just need to look in the right places, pubs arent the place to look.

Thats a bit harsh, you must have been looking in the wrong places.

Guys on here are doing a great job backing her up. The view of most of them seems to be the only reason us women want to get married is to get a 10k ring, a massive do and so we can then run off with all their money and wealth. Oh and ruin their lives as well by being married to us. Just lovely.

Some great examples from above:

“girls wanting a 10,000 euro ring ”

“If a woman truly loves a man she won’t ask him to write her a blank cheque for life.”
“she’ll hang onto the gaff, the car and half your income.”

“Only lads in their late 30′s should start thinking about getting ball & chained.”

“If you are male and you are wealthy or expecting a big inheritance you must have stones in your head to get married”

Any guys out there who actually think it’d be nice to marry the woman you love and spend your life together????

CABK you will find most men on here have drank too much of all Lyons tea and are ALL TALK, at home behind closed doors they are really pussycats…..

Happily married thanks.
It’s called having a laugh.

Talk about bitter!

Deirdre, judging from your spelling I’m not surprised you needed someone for whom English was not a first language

deirdre the foreigners CAME HERE FOR MONEY PET!! mind ur bank acc before he runs back to poland when its gone. plenty of nice irish men out there..maybe u are the problem!!!!!!

I don’t have kids……

Who’d want to marry a Irish woman anyway??
Irish women think they are Gods gift to mankind and they are far from it.

He’s not coming back, dear. Move on

Yes, experience of wit appears to be an issue.