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TO MARK NATIONAL No Smoking Day, ex-smoker Joan Conway tells how she finally kicked her decades-long dependency on cigarettes – and how she’s never felt better.
I SMOKED FOR 28 years before I decided to give up cigarettes. I smoked from the age of 17 right up until last January. I used to smoke 20-30 cigarettes a day. I remember well the day I picked up my first cigarette. After having my first child at 17, I had to stay at home and mind her. That was when I started smoking. Every other mother I met in the area smoked so they could de-stress. It was really a social thing – we would go have a cup of tea, a chat and a cigarette. So I used to smoke with them and before I knew it I was hooked.
My first cigarette
I always worked but the last few years my health hasn’t been as good as it used to be and I began to notice problems with my circulation. I was diagnosed with Raynaud’s syndrome. Someone told me that when they stopped smoking their circulation problems improved, so that was the first thing that made me think seriously about quitting. Also, there was the fact that I couldn’t afford them. I was actually buying market cigarettes at one point, as I couldn’t afford them anywhere else. I was buying a carton of these cheap cigarettes that would do me a week and they weren’t even a brand that I liked. It was just so I could continue smoking.
Last year, my circulation got worse around Christmas. It was so cold and my hands were in a lot of pain. I just couldn’t go out with it. I knew I had to improve my situation, so I decided – once and for all – to give up the smokes. I said to myself “I can do this”.
My first port of call was my GP. I knew this was something I couldn’t do on my own. He gave me nicotine patches and as it was around January, there was a lot of publicity about the National Smokers’ Quit Line, so I called them and asked for help. They were a great help to me. They sent me a out a pack with booklets of information and they were also very good at keeping me going. They would ring me regularly to see how I was getting on and they just really supported me throughout the whole thing.
I got great support from my doctor too, and that’s important. You can’t get through it without the support of others. I needed it too, as the rest of my family all smoked.
Being social
Smoking, for me, started out as a very social thing to do. It’s interesting just how much that has changed. Now it is the complete opposite. I think the smoking ban being introduced has made a huge difference. What is important is that the message about just how bad smoking is and just how difficult it is to quit gets out into the public realm. More and more women are smoking, and this is a real problem.
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In my opinion, I think young girls are taking up smoking to keep down their weight. People used to tell me when I was smoking that I looked great and then when I stopped I started to put weight on. I was told by my doctor that when you quit smoking your metabolism changes. But it’s all about your health and smoking just isn’t good for you. Still, I think that women worry about their weight. It sounds superficial but it seems to be a big issue for young girls, particularly. I remember myself what it was like, when I used to smoke before I would eat.
Another thing that people don’t like to hear is how much I loved smoking – and many people do love it. No matter how much you tell them it isn’t good for them, it doesn’t matter. They will only quit when they want to. My own daughter is a very health-conscious girl. She is very active, she loves sports, she loves going to the gym, but she still smokes.
Quitting
I’m not going to lie; quitting smoking is difficult and most people fall down at some point. I had one lapse in the last six months. I went to a social event and I was the only one who didn’t smoke. When they all went outside to have a cigarette, I went out with them. I spent the night puffing away. The next day I had the cigarette packet in my bag and I just threw them out. I thought – “I’ve done that now, now that’s done”.
I always thought after I gave them up that I was missing something and, obviously, I was – the nicotine, nothing more. I had to go there to know that I had done the right thing by giving them up. I was able to throw them away and never look back. There are times you think you would like one, a little craving comes over you – that’s where willpower comes in.
It was difficult, but it was very worth it as I am healthy now. I walk about four miles every day. I used to get out of breath, but I never do now. If I could go back in time, I never would have put that first cigarette in my mouth. I wish I never started. It’s so the important for me now to get that message across to people.
It’s especially important for the young people to hear people like me speak about this, so they can hear the regret I have about ever starting. It really just isn’t worth it.
Joan Conway is from Athy, County Kildare.
If you would like more information on how to quit smoking please call the National Smokers’ QuitLine on 1850 201 203. It’s a free service, manned by quit counsellors who will give advice, information and support. This service is provided by the Irish Cancer Society in partnership with the HSE. For further information please visit ASH Ireland or The Irish Cancer Society.
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@John O Brien: typical defensive attitude. Put it this way – it doesn’t matter if it was a pedestrian, cyclist, dog or other car that was in the way, no-one should be driving at such a speed that they can’t stop for any of these, especially when there are no cars on the road. If a child is airlifted to hospital after “a collision between two vehicles”, you can be sure the other vehicle wasn’t paying enough attention.
@Brynþór Patrekursson: so if the car was driving 50km on a 50km road and a person/child/cat/dog came out in front of your bumper it’s the drivers fault for not being able to stop on time?
Quick and full recovery for the child and hopefully the driver is ok too(if not at fault).
@Anthony Burke: I was going to my local shop today in a rural spot and a ups driver nearly came up on the path. He was going way too fast in a village with a 50km,ph limit. Must have been been going 90/100 . He was on 2 wheels going around the bend.
@Aviationdub: It could be, if 50 km was not an appropriate speed to be driving at, given the conditions. E.g, driving past a football match, funeral, etc just after the event has ended. Obviously, the other cyclist, pedestrian, etc has some responsibility (unless they’re 5 years old). If a person parachutes down in front of the car, saying the driver was at fault would be unreasonable.
Also pedestrians have been crazy on the roads recently. Well the country roads, they are walking in the middle of the road sometimes in twos and threes very dangerous. They probably think they’re ok as there is not much traffic on the roads but one car can do a lot of damage to a pedestrian.
@lunadoran: perhaps drivers should drive to the conditions and the road. Those twos and threes could just as easily be a person with a double buggy, an oncoming tractor, a person on a horse, etc ……. Saying 2 or 3 pedestrians are dangerous is poor show for driver
@Eoin Scanlon: Walking 2 or 3 abreast on a country road is poor judgement. Maybe you should think of any poor person who rounds a bend and has insufficient time to avoid a collision. It’s not always the driver’s fault.
@lunadoran: Jeesus! – they’re supposed to be on the road. No excuses during a pandemic where cars are down 95% and everyone knows pedestrians and cyclists have to keep bigger distances apart. Far, far, too many unnecessary journeys by arrogant individuals, especially in rural areas. And arrogant individuals mixed with cars result in injuries like this.
@Bob Moore: also noticing a lot of cyclists completely ignoring traffic lights at busy junctions due to lack of traffic.. and not taking any real time to look in all directions!!
@Eoin Scanlon: I’m a cyclist and a driver. I find both your comments to be poorly timed. There are plenty of bad drivers, plenty of bad cyclists and plenty of pedestrians who practise poor judgement. My thoughts are with this child and his family at this moment in time.
Incredibly small minded people writing comments. I hope this poor 11 year old child makes a full recovery and thoughts and prayers with both his family and that of the driver. A bit of humanity goes along way over arguing with strangers getting insignificant jibes in. Roads are for everyone. Everyone who uses them has a responsibility for their own safety as well as that of other users. It doesn’t make every driver, cyclist or pedestrian involved in an accident open to idiotic comments by people who have no idea of the circumstances.
@Sandra Whelehan: agree Sandra.. but with great (horse) power comes great(er) responsibility. You can’t say an 11 year old on a bicycle is is responsible for his/her own safety. It’s up to us adults who drive to look out for other road users.
@Alan Kelly: I know of a young girl (family member of my mams best friend) who literally ran out in front of a car, the car was going about 30km speed at tops, her friends all ran across the main road and she followed a couple of minutes later, ran from behind a parked car without looking. Anyways the car hit her, the way she landed on the road unfortunately gave her fatal injuries.
The poor car driver was never the same, he actually became very good friends with the young girls mam and they helped each other through the grief.
At the end of the day, it was a tragic accident pure and simple and there was no way of avoiding it. Moral of the story, accidents happen and it’s not always the drivers fault.
Hopefully the young lad makes a full and quick recovery.
@Aviationdub: yeah that can happen…that’s why you should always drive slowly past parked cars. As you approach cars, look for pedestrians feet under the parked cars. Same goes for buses at bus stops, watch out for passengers alighting and crossing the road in front of the bus! Like I said..when driving, we have a greater responsibility to look out for more vulnerable road users.
@Alan Kelly: So I should avert my attention from the road in front and look to see whether I can see feet under a parked car? Surely then I’m more at risk of knocking a pedestrian down coming from the other side? Maybe, just maybe all road users should learn the rules of the road? You’re basically saying all drivers should drive at 20 kms per hour because pedestrians are eejits.
@Johnny 5: you could look 5 times while approaching a parked and still not see a child dart out at the last second, thats even going at 20km. As I said freak accidents can happen and will always happen, we will never be able to stop it unfortunately.
@Sandra Whelehan: every time there is a crime which justifiably opens debate, people say “now is not the time- let people grieve”. Mass shootings for example.
A little boy is fighting for his life and look at most of the comments. People bickering about who is to blame and not one of you knows the facts. You all should be ashamed of yourselves. Please God little Daithi makes a full recovery
I live in the country and around every corner is more people out walking than ive ever seen before, drivers need to really slow down on small roads particularly, i worry for them when I see them walking, just takes one ejit to wreck a family…
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