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Being an introvert 'Don't let anyone tell you you're too quiet'

Being a (quiet) breath of fresh air in a room full of loud, gregarious extroverts might even be the key to your success, writes Pauline Dunne.

WHEN I WAS in sixth year, I remember sitting in my Guidance Counsellor’s office fervently filling out one of those personality tests that aims to tell naive seventeen year old’s what they should do with their lives.

I got “office clerk”, both times. I did it twice because I was so appalled at the result the first time round and I was sure something must have gone wrong.

Now, there is nothing wrong with being an office clerk, and in ten plus years since that day, it has definitely crossed my mind more than once that maybe the old 9 to 5 isn’t such a bad deal. Ultimately though, I had a different plan in mind.

I wanted to write for magazines and work in the unpredictable world of media.

I was also extremely quiet

This industry sounded exciting and I was eager to find a way to break into it. The only problem was, I was also extremely quiet. No one could hear a word I said. They still can’t. Not unless I use my loud voice where I feel like I must be shouting the head off whoever is sitting opposite me, and even then it’s touch and go.

The media, as far as I knew, was a place where only people with booming voices and boisterous personalities survived. I tried to imagine myself as one of them, but it seemed too far removed from the reality of who I was and my comfort zone.

I had hoped that personality quiz might come up with some alternative career, equally as attractive to me as journalism but without the noise. Office clerk, unfortunately, just didn’t cut it.

So, instead, I applied for Legal Studies in Waterford IT. Mainly, I must admit, because I wanted to move away from home with my two best friends. But, also because I thought it might be interesting, and if I was going to be an office clerk then it may as well be in a compelling environment.

I haven’t looked back

A few months into my foray with the law though I realised, as much as I found it hard to imagine myself as a journalist, it was even harder to imagine myself trawling through never ending pages of legislation and case files for the rest of my life.

So, once I managed to convince my parents that of course I would return to finish my degree in Legal Studies if and when it all hit the fan, I left Waterford behind, and embarked on a one year journalism course in Rathmines College in Dublin.

Thankfully, I haven’t looked back since. I’ve worked in magazines, online, TV, radio and now animation. I’ve really enjoyed my career so far, but it hasn’t been easy. I’ve found myself in plenty of awkward and nerve wracking situations, but I’ve always got the job done and come out the other end relatively unscathed.

One of my lecturers said to me when I was finishing up in college, “Other people in this class will go further than you, not because they’re better, but because they’re louder”. He was right. I’ve seen it happen. If you’re ballsy enough to go up to editors and pitch your ideas, or if you’re a networking genius, of course you will progress faster. That’s life. But let’s not write the rest of us off just yet. There are other ways to succeed, and more than one definition of success.

Being an introvert is not a weakness

Being an introvert is not a weakness. If you want to work in the media, or as a teacher, or as a barrister who has to stand in front of a jury and argue someone’s innocence every day – don’t let anyone tell you you’re too quiet. Because if it’s what you really want to do, you’ll find a way to make it work for you.

Being a (quiet) breath of fresh air in a room full of loud, gregarious extroverts might even be the key to your success.

You might be surprised to discover all the different jobs that exist in industries that you have never even heard of. So, even if you don’t end up fronting the news, you are likely to find yourself in a position that suits you much more than you would have if you had shied away and taken the safer option.

To quote Jim Carey:

You can fail at what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.

Pauline Dunne is a Post Production Assistant in Brown Bag Films in Dublin. The Little Mouse in the Corner is her first radio documentary, and she can be found silently retweeting other people’s opinions on Twitter @PaulineDunne88, and posting the odd photo of her cat on Instagram @paulineann88. Hear more about being an Introvert on The Documentary On One on RTÉ Radio 1.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:54 PM

    Why can we not have a politician like the Morrocon-born Mayor of Rotherdam, Achmed Aboutaleb, who today told his fellow Muslims that if they do not like how we live our lives in Europe, then they could go f€€k off back to their own €€€t countries & shut up!!! Yayyyyy……at last, a Mayor with a pair!!!

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    Jan 13th 2015, 9:07 PM

    Bravo to Ahmed Aboutaleb.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:27 PM

    Maybe in Europe where they have historical relationships with Islamic nations, but all Ireland has to do to prevent inevitable terror attacks is to stop importing Muslims. We don’t owe them anything. Let them migrate to Britain or one of the other former empires.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:37 PM

    stop importing muslims?, so people are products or commodities now, what about Christians and jews adolf?

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:45 PM

    Are you proposing s Guaranteed Irish scheme for home-grown Muslims, or just banning them altogether?

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:11 PM

    who is this ‘we’ you are referring to Censored?

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:25 PM

    A one way trip to European Court of Human Rights paid for by the taxpayers. Great idea

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    Jan 14th 2015, 7:56 AM

    “up to one million”

    All independently verifiable sources put the death toll at a maximum of 200,000 Iraqi civilians, soldiers and jihadists killed. These were killed by actions of the Coalition but also the Iraqi Armed Forces of the Saddam regime and subsequent jihadist groups.

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    Mute Charles Rex
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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:37 PM

    Sadly he’s right. A few headbangers will get through the net, taking full advantage of western civil liberties to try to destroy those same freedoms.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:23 PM

    time to kick the EU out of Ireland folks

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:28 PM

    I’m not a conspiracy nut but I can imagine someday that some crazy people propose we all get microchipped so this kind of thing can’t happen. Which I obviously believe would be a step to far

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:45 PM

    Mobile phones and in car GPS. If you don’t already think we’re not monitored, you’re naive. CCTV everywhere. ATM machines, store loyalty cards. IP addresses. Credit card transactions. Flight info. We do most of the work ourselves; twitter, Facebook, Instagram.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:50 PM

    Pity with all that monitoring they couldn’t trace those fukwits in France last week.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 9:15 PM

    ericm_ The Chip is coming whether you like it or not and whether you believe in God or not.

    “It also forced all people, great and small, rich and poor, free and slave, to receive a mark in their right hands or on their foreheads, so that they could not buy or sell unless they had the mark, which is the name of the beast or the number of its name.

    This calls for wisdom. Let the person who has insight calculate the number of the beast, for it is the number of a man That number is 666″ Revelation 13:16 to 18.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 9:21 PM

    @framk you need to see kill the messenger about the cia show you what they are capable of! Everyone else should watch it to evrn you moonshine

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:02 PM

    A hearty well done to George Bush Snr for the Gulf War and Jnr for the 2nd one,without the two of you we could never have reached this level of radicalisation,enjoy your retirements fellas.

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    Mute Jason
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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:49 PM

    Nothing they did would have stopped the radicalisation of branches of Islam. It’s a cultural war, a war of values. It would’ve happened regardless.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 9:35 PM

    Jason, the Bushes and their regimes have precipitated the radicalisation. Detention without trial and improsonment have added to the radicalisation process.

    We can’t shut national borders to the extent of making them impermeable.

    We cannot remove citizenship and we are obliged to allow freedom of movement to citizens in other EU countries.

    The point of the article is interesting. If we remove individual freedom, we may reduce terrorist risk but that is too high a price unless one I’d of a very authoritarian outlook.

    We also need a sense of proportionality. Accidents, smoking, alcohol, drugs, homelessness, bad diet and lack of exercise pose far greater threat to human life.

    The chances of being murdered in a terrorist attack in Europe are almost infinestesmilly small. We need to avoid overreaction and needless alarmism.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 9:51 PM

    You see Jason,there is no doubt all across the board that the U.S. wars in Iraq x 2 and Afghanistan have fuelled a significant amount of radicalisation,whereas what you’ve stated is without foundation or evidence,that radicalisation was inevitable anyway.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:13 PM

    Big brother is in full effect can I have permission to use the toilet??????

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:34 PM

    No need to monitor all citizens. But Muslims who have traveled to warzones in the Middle East should be prevented from re-entering their countries, regardless of what their citizenship technically is.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 10:10 PM

    It’s a good thing all Irish citizens who had visited Belfast weren’t banned from going to England.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:11 PM

    #Paulie, he sure did & a whole lot more too, check it out on any News site. He got a standing ovation, for saying what millions are thinking, but feel bullied into silence. Some other politician is quoted as saying of him…”A breath of fresh air is now wafting through Europe”. I wonder could we clone him for Ireland?

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:47 PM

    How about Britain and France start by not arming ‘moderate’ rebels in Syria. Its clear as day most of these weapons fall into the wrong hands.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:15 PM

    ‘moderate’ rebels…… I love that propaganda rhetoric
    ‘moderate ‘ rebels attack Paris..!

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:37 PM

    Try smoking a cigarette in public and you will soon find out how much personal freedom you have.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:49 PM

    Patricia just because you want to inhale toxic poisonous cancerous smoke into your lungs doesn’t mean the rest of us do

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:54 PM

    Hope you live in the countryside so Alan incase you breath in toxic car exhaust fumes.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:31 PM

    There is cars in the country side some people even have tractors there.you should get out into the real world sometime.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 10:37 PM

    I think most smokers would have an interest in watching this. Watch until the end though.
    The Most Radioactive Places on Earth: http://youtu.be/TRL7o2kPqw0

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    Jan 14th 2015, 6:45 PM

    Alan B, suck on a bus exhaust and don’t forget your fluoride.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:11 PM

    Did he really say that?

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:16 PM

    Frank will have a wet dream when he reads this

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    Jan 13th 2015, 10:42 PM

    I just spoke to Frank and he’s still creaming himself as we speak.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:28 PM

    Oh my. The nsa orgasms can be heard from here.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:16 PM

    World War Z.ionism

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:46 PM

    Always the Jews. Broken record.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:23 PM

    I never said jews, learn to read son

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:51 PM

    So who do you mean when you say z. Ionists?

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    Jan 13th 2015, 9:09 PM

    Moonshine_ You are a Shill because you always throw the antisemitic trump card any time someone brings up the subject of political Zi0nism and its crimes.

    Political Zi0nism is NOT Judaism and there are hundreds and thousands of Jews that reject Israel’s foreign and domestic war policies.

    Political zi0nism is the heart and soul of this rising fascist shadow government.that is infiltrating the the world. We got a taste of it true brutality last summer in Gaza when the king pin of this shadow Government became the untouchable for its genocide crimes.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 9:22 PM

    Frank, you dismiss mainstream media yet use links from them to try and proof your points.

    You dismiss religion, yet quote the bible.

    You’re a walking contradiction.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 9:30 PM

    Jason_ I quote toilet paper if its within the context of a topic being discussed.

    I already mentioned today that the Mainstream Media is a cocktail of truth mixed up with a political agenda to serve Western Zio interests and its rising shadow world Government.

    If this was not the case we would be hearing a lot more of what is going on in Syria other than all this propaganda and lies. There was no mention in the mainstream media of the US bombing a prison in Syria last month killing at least 50 civilian inmates.

    http://www.commondreams.org/news/2015/01/12/witnesses-us-led-strike-isis-jail-killed-more-50-civilians

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:23 PM

    Come on frank lets have it give’em some!

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    Jan 13th 2015, 7:50 PM

    Jesus did frank get kicked out or what??????

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:00 PM

    Ah feck, what’d I miss?

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:51 PM

    Must have!

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:11 PM

    So, you want to ban Muslims from visiting their families and homeland just because they are Muslims in case one or two might be terrorists?! Sure why don’t we just put them all in open air prisons like Gaza and don’t let them leave at all. We won’t have to worry at all then. Looks like the real terrorists plan is working so…!

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:31 PM

    If Muslims are chaosing this much chaos in Europe, then perhaps it’s time to stop allowing them to migrate to Europe. Whilst also coming down like a tonne of bricks on the extremists. If they want to live by the law of the desert, then they can stay in the middle east.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:40 PM

    I wish the bigots would leave Ireland, plenty of them posting on here

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:46 PM

    I wish the Islamophiles would clear off to live in some Islamic paradise.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 9:03 PM

    im in the ‘church of the flying spaghetti monster’.. can I stay..?

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    Jan 13th 2015, 10:12 PM

    The Good Friday Agreement has apparently been so successful, that this short of bs can be spouted on an IRISH message board, apparently without irony.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 8:50 PM

    Seriously! I believe we ought have a number of military and police- retirees perhaps given additional pension topup- carry concealed guns. If would be terrorists knew that in any public place there would always be someone ready to surprise and possibly thwart them they might think twice. Additionally people would feel less incined to be afraid;
    the purpose of these terror attacks is to instil fear,promote appeasement and finally dictate the terms of surrender.
    We shouldn’t wait any longer.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 9:12 PM

    go make that suggestion to a NATO country, not here in our republic

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    Jan 13th 2015, 9:47 PM

    @Inpro…… My country too! You controlling citizen’s rights to free speech or what? if you can’t offer a counter proposal don’t shoot the other person’s.

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    Jan 14th 2015, 6:50 AM

    im not controlling anything, you could migrate to Britain, plenty of loyalist muslim hating groups over there and you might feel more at home to

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    Jan 14th 2015, 7:41 AM

    That’s for sure you don’t and won’t ever control anything.
    As for hating muslims- I don’t. I hate the Islamic terrorists and the Islamic doctrine of hate that inspires them to commit the barbaric acts all over the world.
    As it seems you’re an apologist for them perhaps you should go off with them.
    I am heartened by the increasing number of Irish people who are acquainting themselves with Islamic sacred text and seeing the darkness therein.Eventually we’ll be a majority and apologists for Islamic violence and terror will scurry away.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 10:41 PM

    Hopefully Sinn Fein/IRA have the good sense not to go out and train ISIS, despite the substantial financial attraction that has brought them such good business for the war chest in the past.

    IRA terrorist training in Columbia, North Korea and other locations are history now. It’s years since Gerry Adams last attended a North Korean dictator birthday party.

    We must look forward and block out these memories from our minds in order to help secure Sinn Fein their majority mandate in 2016 and take us to a United Ireland, governed with compassion towards all.

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    Jan 13th 2015, 9:32 PM

    Alan your diesel fumes are a million times more toxic and dangerous than cigarette smoke will ever be.

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    Jan 14th 2015, 11:05 AM

    All Muslims should be chiped.

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