The level of women and children affected by domestic violence has risen dramatically. The severity of the abuse has also increased. This report outlines the lack of places available in refuges. Domestic violence cuts across all levels of society and class. It affects men and women. However at least 90% of these victims are women. The organisation such as AMEN caters for men. They have released their own research this year. The most important factor is to continue an open dialogue of the issue and strive for an end to violence in all relationships. There is a claustrophobic silence surrounding domestic violence. Let’s break the silence.

I used to volunteer on the Womens Aid Helpline. Even during the boom years, women were being turned away from refuges or had to travel by taxi to refuges up north. The reason why men can’t use the refuge is because the women there are completely terrified of men by the time they find the courage to leave their abusers. And it’s not only men, unfortunately, teenage boys of a certain age or height are not allowed either which means some mothers can’t use a refuge even if there was space available. The system is flawed, there are men who are being abused and there are women with teenage sons who are being abused. The refuges have to cater for the majority which seems to be women with young children.

I think it is a disgrace that we can’t keep our vulnerable safe, that counts for both men and women. Either sex shouldn’t be turned away for being Brave enough to walk away from a physically and emotionally damaging relationship either with or without children. Lets hope things can improve soon for these poor people.

Women and children are in reality the more likely victims in domestic violence cases. That is the truth of the matter. They are not the ones with the problem that leads to them being in this situation. Typically it is violent men. Where are the refuges to deal with men who are abusers? Surely they are the ones who should be leaving their homes with their problem. Nuala O’Faolain wrote a great deal about this topic and she hit the nail on the head when she said society is intrinsically wrong to allow victims of domestic violence to be further victimised for a crime that is not their own.

Well, the valid question of how under-reported and under-resourced male domestic abuse may be is sadly getting lost amid some pretty bitter mysoginistic comments. Is it really necessary to deny the extent of domestic abuse towards women in order to attract more attention on male victims?

I don’t think domestic violence should be branded on male or female. Violence is violence. We should have strict laws when dealing with it. Just like some states in the US

I have male friend whose wife is a bag of crazy. She came at him with a knife during an argument, throws things at him and for a woman is extremely violent. He is trapped because she uses emotional black mail. I’ve known Seamus a long time now and it has a huage impact on him.

This type of violence is not exclusive to women

There are 6 billion people on this planet half are women and o e third of these worn experience violence and abuse. A women will be abuse at least 35 times before she gets the courage to come forward. One in four women will experience domestic violence or abuse in their life time. One in 7 will experience severe violence. I can assure that domestic violence services are far from over funded. In fact they rely on fundraising and good will of the general public. The demand for the services are rising and the funding is falling.

Oh no, all us domestic violence workers have been sprung!! If there is no dv, we’re out of a job! We won’t get paid all those amazing high wages, with extraordinary fringe benefits, while living it up in our cushy, fun jobs! Our game is up!!!
With regard to men’s refuges, there is a huge need for them. As a previous writer described, men experience dv in relationships too! When men get tired of taking in their mates and start to lobby government for funding, then men’s refuges might become a reality, same way women’s refuges came into being!

Once again, women only

Now there’ll be feminists along to say that the number of abused men is statistically insignificant. Even if that were true, which its not, wouldn’t that mean it wouldn’t take a huge amount of resources to care for them?

This exclusion of male victims betrays the misandry at the heart of groups like this. Look at it this way, the overwhelming majority of the homeless are men. Should the Simon community therefore stop helping homeless women?

Great article amy on highlighting the need for more refuges to support the victims

This country has very powerful domestic violence orders. A victim can get an emergency order very quickly against their partner and shouldn’t need to be accommodated for very long in a refuge.

Wow talk about being overfunded. ’40 frontline domestic violence services in Ireland’. Another example how the female is valued more than the. The female is the most pampered and protected creature on the face of this planet.