A MAN WHOSE wife threw scalding water on him says that there is “no shame” in being a male victim of domestic violence.

Ken Gregory, 65, suffered first and second degree burns to 14% of his body after the assault at his bungalow in Peterborough last year. His wife, Teresa Gilbertson is awaiting sentencing for the attack after being found guilty of grievous bodily harm.

The two met seven years ago after the death of Gregory’s first wife. On the day of the attack he had planned on visiting her grave, but he and his new wife argued and agreed to divorce.

Gilbertson went to make a cup of tea, but returned with a jug of boiling water which she poured on Gregory from behind.

Her court case heard that she said “there you go” as she poured the water on him, the BBC reports (this link contains pictures that may upset some).

Gregory says that the pain was “unbearable, searing”.

Now, Gregory has decided to speak out, saying it was important to challenge the stigma surrounding men who are victims of abuse.

“I had never imagined something like this would happen to me. “As a man who is a bit older and who isn’t exactly small, there is a perception that you can’t be a victim of domestic violence.

“I was worried that people would assume that it was my fault and she was the victim – there is still a general perception that, as a strong man against a weaker female, you must have been the protagonist.

“But it should be the same message that they put out for women many years ago: don’t be frightened, you don’t have to put up with it.”

Need help? Here are some contacts:

• Safe Ireland website and National Freephone Helpline 1800341 900
• Download the Safe Ireland APP
• Information on individual refuges in Ireland
• Help for men experiencing domestic violence: Amen website and Helpline 046 9023718

Read: Why are there no refuges for male victims of domestic violence?

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