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MANY MALE VICTIMS of domestic abuse who are separated from their partners and wives face a lonely holiday season without their children, a charity has said.
AMEN, a charity supporting men who have been victims of abuse in the home, said women often use their custodial status to punish fathers by refusing access to children over the Christmas period.
One father of four shared his story with TheJournal.ie, describing three years of violence against him by his wife.
“We were married for a good number of years and she gradually just changed and started to get violent,” he said. “I thought she was just going through a phase but it only got worse and eventually I had to leave the family home with the children”.
The man said most of the abuse happened when he was standing up for his children.
‘I had a knife lunged at me’
“I got knocked out once when I was hit on the back of the head and I also had a knife lunged at me – I have scars on my hands from that,” he said.
He eventually reached out to Amen for help but before that he said he “felt ashamed about it”.
“It was making that phonecall, to get the initial help – that’s the big thing.”
A lot of people don’t understand when a woman is hitting a man, not many think that would happen. I didn’t think they would believe me.
His youngest daughter lives with his wife in the house on his family’s farm, which he still runs.
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He rarely gets to see her as he is not allowed inside the house and though he has his three other children for Christmas, he said he doubts he will even get to give the youngest her present in person.
‘Lonely’
“It can be a very lonely time for men and to think that you’re not at fault and you still can’t see your children – it’s crazy,” he said.
Amen said this is just an example of the many fathers who will be spending Christmas away from their children.
From January to October this year, the charity helped 1,997 individuals contacting the service using a range of methods including the helpline, one to one meetings, court accompaniments, emails and text messages.
Manager Niamh Farrell commented:
Many fathers are now dreading spending Christmas without their children. They feel lonely, frightened, isolated and helpless. Mothers who use their custodial status to punish their former partners in this way should stop and think about the damage they are also doing to their children.
Farrell said demand on services is ever increasing and this can be attributed to a number of factors.
“Many men are now retiring and their wives or partners feel no longer able to live with them everyday, financial situations are becoming more difficult with unemployment and a rise in everyday living costs,” she explained. “Many of the men who contact the helpline can no longer deal with the abuse by themselves. The abuse that these men have and are suffering could be ongoing for years.”
Farrell said women should be “judged by the same standards as men, and women who are violent should be held legally responsible”.
“Domestic violence is an issue that hurts every member of a family,” she added.
If you are affected by the topic of this article, you can contact Amen on 0469023718 or email info@amen.ie.
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Climate change modelling is an outrigger of the scientific method, which is based on Newton’s clockwork solar system modelling. That awful perspective has a central principle that the Earth doesn’t turn once in 24 hours and a thousand times in a thousand 24-hour days.
The topic of how to demonstrate a round Earth was brought up a number of days ago, and unfortunately, readers once again were unable to affirm the correct equatorial rotation velocity, which affirms that not only is the Earth round, but it is also a sphere.
A pizza is flat, but it can also be round, so the more developed perspective of the Earth as a sphere supersedes the crude flat vs. round choice. The Earth’s rotation demonstrates its shape.
@Jerry LeFrog: To demonstrate that the Earth is round and a sphere rather than round and flat ( like a pizza), only the maximum equatorial rotation velocity based on the maximum circumference is required.
The basis of all scientific method modelling, including climate change modelling, insists that the value is 1674.4 km/h for a circumference of 40,075 km.
Clocks and Longitude, including the GPS, base the actual rotation value at the Equator as 1669.8 km/hr.
The day/night cycle, which includes sunrise, noon, and sunset happens once every 24 hours due to one rotation. The academic community denies these facts.
“Owing to the difference between solar and sidereal time, the Earth rotates once more often than 24-hour days in a year” NASA.
@Ray Dunne: I see through thumbs-up approval that most Journal commenters refuse to accept that the sunrise/sunset cycle every 24 hours is not also one rotation of the Earth.
That more than anything demonstrates how easy it is to convince society of the need to control the weather/temperatures (climate change modelling).
The Earth has been turning and creating the day/night cycle long before humanity appeared on Earth, long before the dinosaurs, and long before life on land and in the sea, so it is the oldest observation people have and perhaps the most precious and immediate experience of a moving Earth.
What could be more beautiful and inspirational, and so what if I am the only person to affirm the connection between the rotation and Earth science?
If people choose a ridiculous notion through a misadventure with timekeeping, these pizza earthers ( round and flat earth) might believe they are in some way superior to others; they are best left to their own devices.
Climate change modelling, like natural selection, will fade without being dealt with properly. They are symptoms rather than the disease
@Gerald Kelleher: You believe in the heliocentric spinning ball in a vacuum MODEL. Flat earthers don’t have a model and don’t think earth is a pizza in space.
@Science: It is late as my location (and me with it) rotates into the dark hemisphere for a number of hours before rotating back into the light hemisphere and the radiation of our parent star
Only scientific method modellers dispute this intimate experience, and they are the foolish people promoting climate change modelling.
Cowardice before basic facts is the worst so you believe what you need to, people need to be courageous and considerate and not silent.
@Gerald Kelleher: If you brought all the theories and counter theories of climate change modelling and all the facts and figures and dropped them on top of the flood in Germany would they be enough to soak it up. If anyone has a spare opinion or theory feel free to add to the pile .
These regions were always prone to floods, and the investment to prevent this and maintenance is discovered often not matching what should have been done. Nothing to do with the end of the world BS climate change
Ha, ha, pięknie…
Mam tego tyle już, że… Że… Żebyście zmiękli
Spróbuj powiedzieć to, nim uwierzysz, że
Nie warto mówić kocham
Spróbuj uczynić gest, nim uwierzysz, że
Nic nie warto robić
Nic naprawdę nic nie pomoże
Jeśli Ty nie pomożesz dziś miłości
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Jeśli Ty nie pomożesz dziś miłości
Musisz odnaleźć nadzieję
I nieważne, że nazwą ciebie głupcem
Musisz pozwolić by sny
Sprawiły byś pamiętał, że
Nic naprawdę nic nie pomoże
Jeśli Ty nie pomożesz dziś miłości
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Jeśli Ty nie pomożesz dziś miłości
Moja i Twoja nadzieja
Uczyni realnym krok w chmurach
Moja i Twoja nadzieja
Pozwoli uczynić dziś cuda
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Nic naprawdę nic nie pomoże…
Oni sobie poszli i nie powiedzieli nawet do widzenia
W ten oto sposób dobiegliśmy końca
Dla niektórych nareszcie, dla niektórych szkoda
Pewne, że jest to koniec
Dziękujemy, że przyjechaliście, naprawdę
I… I za wszystko dzięki, zobaczymy się może w przyszłym roku
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