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'I turned into a blubbering mess when I found my wedding dress'

I never believed you would just feel the right dress for you, but it is absolutely true, writes Pamela Tully.

THE VENUE SEARCH is over. I honestly think if I had dragged my other half to another venue there would be no wedding at all. Insert sigh of relief! The feeling once we made our final decision was amazing, but short lived because the tasks ahead were daunting.

After meeting with the wedding coordinator at our venue she fired question after question that had us both worrying. Have you got your photographer? Have you got your band, you have to book them straight away. So we found ourselves over a year to the wedding panicking that there would be no suppliers left.

I have heard stories from other brides to be about how easy it was to find their perfect supplier yet I have to admit, three wedding fairs later, our heads were swimming. There is so much to choose from out there that you find yourself second guessing every decision you make.

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The second most important element after the venue for me was the band, obviously. I had my top three picked out, but inevitably they were booked for our date so I found myself trying to schedule in a showcase viewing around my own busy lifestyle. Five bands later and it was decided, but it is by no means easy trying to picture what your wedding evening will look like.

I have a new found respect for couples that take the time to come to see my band play now. The DJ was relatively easy as we know him, but word to the wise, I constantly see amateur DJs arrive to a wedding, set up their mediocre speakers and try to compete with the band, it just doesn’t work, so invest in someone who knows what they are doing not a computer geek behind a laptop.

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Our search now led us to the photographer and videographer. We really did consider having no videographer, but decided in the end to book one, fearing dodgy upside down iPhone snippets would be the only footage captured of our day, but I would recommend shopping around.

We sourced a great deal from and after checking testimonials we were happy. It was important for us to meet the photographer. I wanted to get a feel for that person and for them to get to know us too. Again, there are so many deals with main albums, parent albums, USB keys.

You should be able to access all your photographs from your day and have flexibility afterwards to talk about what you want to include in your album. Be upfront and honest about what you do and don’t want on the day and make sure your videographer and photographer work in tandem. The last thing you want is photographs with your videographer included in them.

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The dress. I turned into a blubbering mess and one shop assistant told me I cried more than anyone else she had helped. I never believed you would just feel the right dress for you but it is absolutely true. I have been to five shops now and unsurprisingly ended up back at the first shop and the first dress I tried.

We have quite a lot done, but I am sure there is hundred more things to do, so we start off 2016 with spreadsheets, wedding budget trackers, guest lists, and tonnes of flyers from every wedding fair we have ever attended.

Pamela Tully, bride to be, got engaged last year. From performing at weddings, Pamala talks us through what a couple goes through trying to plan the big day and all that it entails. Pamela is part of the wedding band Knightshift. They are taking bookings for 2016/2017. You can find more information about the band on their Facebook page. You can watch their promo here. Got any wedding planning tips – share them in the comments section below.

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