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The Diaries: The woman in her 40s who has always shied away from relationships

“Sex! What’s that?…

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This article contains content of a very explicit nature. 

EVERY NIGHT THIS week as part of our Sex Week series TheJournal.ie will be running a seven-day diary submitted by readers.

The Editor asked each diarist to anonymise their entries but to be as honest as possible in terms of activities and thoughts.

The diaries have been lightly edited for style and length but are the diarist’s own words.

Tonight, a woman in her 40s living with her girlfriend…


“Sex! What’s that? Really not feeling at all sexy today because my monthly friend is just about due.

“As always my wonderful girlfriend is attentive and affectionate – plenty of kisses and cuddles. Being with someone is the best – this is coming from someone who has shied away from serious relationships all her life. Amazing what the right women can do.”


“She’s up and out before me but before she goes we have the usual kiss, cuddle, and a bit of a feel and I love you (so important). So it’s arrived… cramps. I know what will help that! The only sex I have today is with myself!

Of course lots of thoughts of sex today, feeling very fruity. However given my period nobody is allowed down there.


“Saturday; you’d think this would be the ideal day for myself and my girl to spend some quality time together but life being life we are both up early of doing our own things. Doubt sex even crossed my mind.”


Still dealing with PMT however I am very horny. I really need to have sex soon.


“Back to work today after two weeks off, feeling good and well rested. We plan an early night (never thought I’d see the day that action between the sheets needs for planning).

“The plan was oh so worth it. I think we ticked just about every box in the world of lesbian sex (well our world anyway). I came twice, her once. Best feeling ever!”


Still smiling after last night, does the spirit good! Plenty of affection today, nice chilled out evening in front of the telly.


“I have a higher sex drive than my partner and am gagging for it but she’s working late and is exhausted. So it’s parked… and hey that’s ok!”

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