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'He popped the question and I couldn't be happier, but where do I even begin?'

We vowed to take it easy and not rush but the minute I could I was scouring websites for ideas. My Facebook feed is already filled with wedding supplier ads and we find our weekends are spent venue hunting, writes newly engaged Pamela Tully.

Pamela Tully

SO HE POPPED the question and I couldn’t be happier. The walking on cloud nine feeling hasn’t deflated yet and I find myself staring at the ring as often as I check my Facebook account – hourly.

However, now my newsfeed is littered with ads for wedding suppliers, ah the power of targeted media. I am loving and hating the planning all at the same time.

We vowed to take it easy and not rush but the minute I could I was scouring websites for ideas so now we find ourselves filling every available evening and weekend with venue hunting.

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I’ve seen it all, so I thought I would be a pro

Being part of this industry (I sing in a wedding band) I was convinced I would have this in the bag within a few days. I have seen the inside of wedding venues the length and breadth of the country. I have sang on the stages, seen the fairy backdrops, sampled the candy cart and loved it.

Yet I find myself on the other side now and it has got to be one of the most difficult decisions I have encountered in this process to date. I am normally a very decisive person I know what I want and it is black and white, it’s all the other things you don’t think of that has me teetering on the edge of what if.

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The venue, the bar, the band…

Your wedding day should be a celebration of your new life together and you want to share that with all your loved ones.

The room is a big thing for me, the bar has to be in the room or you will just lose all the men to the bar and the women will follow leaving your poor wedding band to play to no one (it happens).

The children: To attend or not attend that is the question! Of course the cute little flower girl and page boy will look amazing in your photographs but what about when you are called for your first dance as husband and wife and someone’s cute three-year-old is balling crying while your videographer tries not to trip over them. You know it is true.

The accommodation: Will people want to pay to stay over or go home, do you organise a bus or let them make their own way.

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Who do you ask to the afters?

The afters: Do you invite those acquaintances that are only really your Facebook friends that we haven’t seen in years to the full wedding or just the after party and do people still have that feeling of “not being good enough to invite to the entire wedding”.

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These are just a snippet of questions on the venue alone we haven’t even started looking at suppliers for anything else.

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Better get planning

I am now an avid reader of weddings online so if the history on any of my computers was ever checked it would look like I am going into business with Brides of Franc.

Inevitably the list of questions is endless and one I never expected so I wait to view another three venues this weekend and all the other things on the checklist can wait for another weekend.

I don’t know how I am ever going to narrow down the band search!

Pamela Tully, bride to be, is part of the wedding band Knightshift. Their next gig is in The Arlington Hotel, Dublin on 25 September. You can find more information about the band on their Facebook page.

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